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I'm 23 weeks pregnant and he keeps leaving and coming back. why?

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Question - (18 April 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 9 May 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together 2 1/2 years we have a son and a daughter on the way. Everything started out good we never fought. Things were said later on and I found things and started getting to where I was afraid to trust him I know that's not good. I do trust him now because we've been through so much and he hasn't given me a legit reason since. Anyway he left and told me he was done this time and he's done this atleast 4 times in the past. The longest we split was a month but each time we break up he still comes to see me. As he's doing now. He blocked my number though. But he still shows up to our apartment time to time acts like were still together tells me he loves and misses me etc. I run into him at the grocery store he helped me shop and with putting them in mt truck. Im so confused I don't know what to do. Help! Is he playing with me? What's he want?

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A female reader, deirdre Ireland +, writes (9 May 2012):

honeypie and cerberus have said it all. you are allowing him to use you, what kind of man only goes back to his pregnant ex for sex, not to see how she is doing with carrying HIS baby? sorry to say, but you cant rely on or trust this man. and I sincerely hope you have been using condoms, because he is sleeping around. why else block your number? get yourself checked out for a STI immediately, you dont want to innocently pass something nasty onto your baby which can happen during childbirth. Im sorry you are going through this crap, but you need to look out for yourself and organise child support because this man is taking you for a ride in more ways than one. good luck and hope you can eventually move on x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012):

"Then why does he still have sex with me and always end up coming home?"

Because you're an easy piece of ass and he's horny OP. Where is the confusion? You're legs are open, he wants to stick in and you let him. Then when he's finished he leaves you again until the next time he's horny or drunk.

It's not rocket science OP, it's just a booty call with a woman he can fuck and then throw away and her legs will remain open. Do you honestly know that many guys who wouldn't do the same thing?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 April 2012):

Honeypie agony aunt1. if you keep having sex with him he has a reason for showing up every now and then (booty calls)He has YOUR number blocked. So you can NOT get hold of him. He can however show up, come and go as he pleases. What if you went into labor? OR got stranded, hurt?

2. IF you LET him pop in and out of your life, he will.

The man is in no way or shape acting or looking like a stable father figure, partner or role model for your baby.

I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. He is NOT going to be the man you want him to be.

My suggestion. Tell him to shit or get off the pot. Either he WANTS to be with you or he doesn't. This on and off is just not right for you, or the baby.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012):

Then why does he still have sex with me and always end up coming home?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012):

We still have sex so it makes it confusing. He always comes back home to stay and says sorry so im confused.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (18 April 2012):

janniepeg agony auntI don't think he will be a stable partner in your life ever but at least he is not totally disappearing like an ass. He still feels responsible as a father but helping you out does not mean he is coming back to the relationship. I think blocking your number means that he does not want to talk about the relationship anymore. The love would not just go away when a relationship stops working. Having kids with him would ensure that you will keep seeing him from time to time but do not count on the hopes that he wants a romantic relationship. He visits you, says he loves you so he doesn't feel guilty abandoning you and the babies.

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