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writes:Hi I'm 15 and always really depressed, since I was 10. I moved from my hometown to somewhere I don't like, I've lived here 5 years now and it depresses me. I can't trust people around here and my past still haunts me. I was sexually abused by my step dad, who my mum is not with any more and no body knows about it, I can't cope any more, things just go from bad to worse!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all soo much for your support!!! I really need someone to help me but I can't tell my mum. I don't have the courage, but I will try to help my self. again thanx xxxxxxxxx
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 Hi Sweetie,
You shouldn't have to cope on your own. Talk with your Mum and get her to take you for counceling. You should probably see a personal tharapist and a family therapist with your Mum as well. Things will get better with time. You should also try to join a few groups at school and outside of school. Think about what interests you, and go for it. It's a normal, residual effect of abuse to have Serious trust issues. Talking things through with your Mum and therapists will help you with this, and so will time. Don't isolate yourself, make sure that you do try to stay active socially even if it is going against your current feelings. You will get through this. This was something that happened To you, it May be a part of your past, but it does not Define who you are and who YOU Will Be. Only YOU get to decide that. I am so sorry that you have gone through all of this, it's not fair. It makes me very angry that abusers cause such harm and pain to innocent, trusting children. Please ask your Mum to get you the support that you deserve to help you get through this. Take good care of yourself.
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (2 September 2007):
 Oh, I'm really sorry to hear about what you went through in the past. And its understandable you feel this way. I think you should let it out and tell someone you do trust and someone who will be understanding. You may feel much better when its out in the open. You may be able to move on and start anew. Take care xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, J1124  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 I'm really sorry to hear that. I have had problems with depression for at least 4+ years. I too was sexually abused by someone. I have never mentioned it to anyone. As far as friends go I have been alone for as long as I can remember. I didn't even realize what had happened until I was about 15 or 16. Expressing myself through music has really helped me.
My best advice is to find something that you enjoy doing that will help you deal with what you feel. I don't know if you have a job yet, but I started working at 16 and that really helped as well. It gave me a sense of belonging. It's something that is extremely hard to deal with. If you can try and find just 1 person you can talk to. I hope things get better for you.
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (2 September 2007):
 First off: I'd like to apologize the hardships you've endured in your past, it breaks my heart to hear of young girls who were treated so poorly, especially by someone they once trusted, and loved.
Hun, it's always hard to cope, if you try to do it alone. Tell someone you trust, and especially your mother about what happened with your Step-father. He will only do it to another young girl. Talk to someone about it, a friend, a family member.
Best of luck, and take care.
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