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writes: If you knew a guy and you knew he was cheating on his girlfriend, would you tell her?I have a friend, well someone i know, and for the past 6 months or so he has been cheating on his girlfriend.He has approached me on a number of occasions and i told him to take a hike. He then tried it on with a female friend but she didn't fall for it either.This female friend copied his facebook message and was going to send it to his girlfriend but i persuaded her not to as we both don't know her and i doubt she would believe some girls she doesn't even know.Did i do the right thing or should i have let her sent those message?I hate him getting away with it but on the other hand i know it's not really my place.Thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Hi,My now ex husband was having an affair for almost 7 months, he told his best mate and his best mate's wife, who was one of my closest girlfriends.I was never told about the affair.I felt incredibly disappointed in my friend, and if the situation had have been reversed, I would have told her.Tell this person, she deserves to know and deserves to be treated with respect then at least if she does know she can make up her own mind as to what to do about the information.You will be helping her in the long run.Hope this helps
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (30 January 2011):
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either tell her or tell her anonymously. she may not believe you but it will at least alert her to keep more of an eye on him, and if she does this she will probably catch him out herself
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe used to be friends but now i know what he's like that's not really the case anymore. I'm going to keep quiet but at the same time i hate that he's getting away with it and is so smug.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Who's your loyalty with? If he's a friend of yours he wouldn't be coming on to you, would he? If he's not really a friend of yours then why not just tell the girlfriend. Just don't get involved, just a small note or letting that other girl tell her.
But, if this guy is your friend and you actually have some loyalty towards him: let it be. Not your business, and not your battle. Tell him what he's doing is bad and persuade him to stay faithful or break it off with his girlfriend, but other than that don't interfere.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Stay out of it. If the girlfriend doesn't know what this guy is upto, (considering he's putting a lot of effort into it!), its not your concern. Let her find out on her own. Chances are she might not believe any you or your friend, if she trusts this idiot of a BF so much to not have seen through him yet!
You told him off when he approached you. You did the right thing and there ends your part.
The guy and his girlfriend's relationship is not your place to be in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): I would have sent it. I believe deceitful people and cheats, whether male or female, should all be put on the same island to rot in their shit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Yes, you should have sent her those messages, that would have been proof enough of what he is doing. She has a right to know. If you send them to her it will hurt her most likely, but she can then confront him and make a decision, hopefully to kick him to the curb.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 No, it's best to stay out of it. As you stated, "It's not your place". You are also correct in her not believing girls she doesn't know. Cheaters are sloppy, he'll eventually slip up. Or she's in denial that he's cheating since it has been going on for 6 months.
Either way, go on about your business.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (30 January 2011):
 If your boyfriend was cheating on you, would you want to know? I know I would! Not only is her boyfriend a cheater, but he could put her at risk for STD's. I hope you contact her and let her know what he's been up to. That way she can get rid of him, and find someone who actually cares about her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): he sounds like a total twat (douche) but yes, you did the right thing, first of all you're right, the girlfriend of his probably wouldn't have believed you.. second, they're all his choices, if he wants to cheat let him cheat. it's his business, even though he shouldnt be getting away with it, you were right not to send that message, i know it's hard because you're basically letting an evil person get away with something, but life will balance its self out in time.
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reader, RayBones +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Why do you care so much?
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