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writes:Recently I asked to meet up with an old friend from high school that I used to have a crush on, pretty sure he felt the same at the time. I have known him for about 5+ years, but we lost touch after h.s.(have not really talked in a couple of years) until I texted him and we made plans. We ended up going to a bar and had a nice evening. It was really nice to see him again and I thought he would be interested in an "actual" date with me. A couple of days later I asked him to dinner via text, no response. Then about a week after that sent another text asking pretty much the same thing. Nothing. I know he is not interested, otherwise he would have responded, but I feel weird leaving it with no response. Should I say something to him to try to make it less awkward? If I make another attempt at conversation, would it just be desperate? Or should I ignore it? I mean, it is not like we really talked in the first place, I just do not like how it was ended with no response. A "no" would have been much better than no response at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): No I wouldn't text him anymore. Yeah that would come off as desperate. Just take it as a loss and learn from it. Maybe eventually he will get back to you. Oh and in general, try to keep text messages light. Rather than ask a guy out, just strike up a text conversation instead. "Hey how is it going? The weather sucks huh?" It is always best to feel out a person before jumping in head first. And if you want to ask a guy out, do it more casually. As in, "hey me and my girlfriends are going to a show, we have an extra ticket, wanna come?" Or "hey me and my friend are right around the corner from your job, meet us for coffee." Cause asking him out to dinner kind of puts pressure on him and maybe he is not sure where you are coming from and he got a little scared. Just remember, always keep things real casual unless the guy is giving you headway and as a general rule, always let the guy lead.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 January 2013):
 I think you need to just ignore it and move on.
It will look desperate if you contact him again.
I hate text messages for important things like asking for dates....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): his non response was a no. it was a way of saying no without having to directly and uncomfortably say he's not interested. you say you realize he's not interested, so why feel compelled to get a verbal "not interested?" i would just leave it alone. otherwise, you will just look desperate.
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reader, Lolahip  +, writes (2 January 2013):
 You neber know , maybe he just lost or broke his phone and cannot reply. just keep your head high and hope for the best , i hope this helps!
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 January 2013):
 people change over time and go in different directions until they find the different paths leading to them having less in common.
If he was interested he would have initiated an invitation to you to share some activity with him - a meal, an outing etc.
Yet he has ignored you and you've had no response.
That's very sad for you, especially as you had a crush on him earlier.
If you contact him again it will seem desperate.
Back off. Put some distance between the two of you.
The next move is his, if he wishes to make a move.
I know that's sad. But some things are not meant to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): It would look desperate but I know where your coming from. It's ok this all happens to us at some point. If I were you I would leave it at no response and move on. If he doesn't wanna go out he should be a man and say something. So be the better person and walk away. You can find a crush way more better than that.
P.s. keep your head up :)
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