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writes:I have been living with my boyfriend for 3 months. i think he is the one but i wanna go to uni n this means breaking up. i cant deal with a long distance relationship. help me what do i do?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Ahhhh, the opposite of the situation I was in such a short time ago.
My girlfriend broke up with me because of this. Difference is, we had endured a long distance relationship for little over 2 years. I pleaded to her to atleast try it, but she said no.
What you're planning to do will hurt him, I know that all to well. But if you really can't handle a long distance relationship, then there is really no way out. You can't stay with him, if you want to continue studying, which in the long run, will benefit you more.
At first, he will not want to accept that you are both young, and that you will both find new people, but in time, he will. It's been nearly a month and a half and I have not quite fully accepted those things, but I guess it's gradually becoming that way. He will be no different.
It's terrible losing a relationship to circumstance, but please, please, please do your best to assure him that you love him, and that it is purely due to circumstance.
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reader, VictoriaB  +, writes (9 August 2007):
Hey, I was in similar situation before. I met my bf about a month-two before the summer break. He was states away in school, however his mom lived here (where i live). Hhe was going to spend summer here. We talked all the time and likes each other A LOT. He came, we met up and knew we wanted to be together. However, we wanted to hand out and get to know each other even better before that. A month later he asked me out i said yes... 2 month later, it was time for him to go away... He had one semester left and planned to return here and stay. We both didnt want to break up and though that long distance is very hard. To make a long story short- we stayed together. He came over the weekend and i went to visit him. We managed to see each other once a month because it was very expensive etc.
Long distance is very hard to do, i mean very hard. He was a nice guy, informing me what goes on, where he goes (didn't go out much), we tlaked many times a day, texted, and he intorduced me to boys he hang out with when i'd go there. All that helped. In order to succeed, you have to have trust, communicate more than regular people because your away. That is very important!
I was upset, stressed many times, i worried what he is doing when he went out, i was sad that i wasnt there etc. It was bad at times. What kept us together is a lot of contact, reassurance and stuff like that. Its been over two years now and we are still together...(after he finished his semester he came back here)
If you have good relationship with this guy, i'd say try it. You don't want to lose something good because you will be apart for some time. It depends on how you two are though....
Good luck, if oyu have any questions feel free to message me back.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (9 August 2007):
 you need to give more information hunnie ie how far do you live a part if you were to go to uni what he does ie can he see you at weekends and vice versa xx
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Go to uni your only young you need to better your self explain to him what you feel you need to do. Tell him that if he has any feelings for you he will let you go because loving some one is being able to let them go.hope this helpsxxx
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