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26-29,
*oblondie1
writes:Okay, my problem really buggs me. Im 14 and i went away for a while and I made a friend named "Chloe", shes a girl and shes 17. Shes pretty hot but i think im prettier. While we were there we met a guy, "Bob" hes 18 and i told her i liked him and he liked me too. Now that I am back home "Bob" tells me he really likes me and wants me to call him and then i asked him if he liked "Chloe" and he said kind of but i really like you. This really buggs me. I get jealous very easily and this got me really jealous especially because i really really like him. He keeps telling me that he likes me a lot but then i told him tonight that i was going to meet up with a hot boy and he says well looks like you found someone else and now wont answer me for like a few hours now. I did it to make him jealous because he made me jealous. Is how im feeling wrong? I think i may love him... please help! [MOD NOTE: Names have been changed to protect identies]
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (28 August 2009):
 Ah, it must be the morning for revenge. There are a couple of things to talk about here. First jealousy and revenge are negative emotions, love is a positive emotion. They may feel quite similar but thy can not be mixed successfully. So when you ask "Is how I'm feeling wrong?" I must answer yes it is wrong to seek revenge against someone you are trying to build a relationship of trust with. You are young and this is an easy mistake (if painful)to make. But, your feelings are real and you have to learn how to live with them and act properly on them. So no you are not wrong to feel that way but, your reaction to them was inappropriate in view of your goals. I hope that makes sense to you.
Next point, I've said it before, and I'll say it again, Guys don't play head games because they just don't have enough to play with. When you try what you did with this guy, you take a risk of it backfiring and him misinterpreting you. Again live and learn.
Last he may not be taking you that seriously because he is 18 and living away from you. Because he is or soon will be having a major change in life, nothing is stable. Another friend lost is not as serious to him as it is to you. In 4 years he will be getting married and starting a career, you will be graduating high school. He may not see a serious long term prospect with you.
In the end I am sorry you are hurt, and I wish you better fortune next boy.
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