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writes:I have been friends with a guy for 4 yrs. During this friendship I was never the only female (yes sexual) friend in his life. Although i accepted it i never liked it and i have never told him this - i have put up with it i guess because no one that i have really liked has come along (although i have had other friends and alot of men have shown interest in me). i have ended the relatioship many times. Now he is in a relationship with a girl who appears to be his girlfriend (the whole time i have known him he never had one main girlfriend). I beleive that he likes her because she buys him alot of things, takes him on trips etc - basically kisses his behind and anyone who is near and dear to him. I have told him if that is who he wants to be with then he needs to leave me alone and go be with her. I would like to tell him how i feel but the words will not come out - i care for him alot - he is probably the one guy that i have really cared for this much. I can see through his actions that he doesnt like this girl as much as other may think - yes i do know him very well. What do i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (14 May 2007):
 Do not settle for being second best or the backup girl.
If he really liked you and you alone, he would not have any more sexual partners.
To make yourself worth more than that, move on and get rid of him as a sexual partner. I am sure you deserve better.
Let go and find someone who only likes you.
Love should not be taken for granted. The longer you leave it, the more painful it will be to break it up.
Good luck
Angel of Love
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reader, cd206 +, writes (12 May 2007):
 Are you absolutely convinced that he doesn't like this girl or is that you want it to be true so badly that you're seeing something that may not even be there? In every relationship people have choices. Nobody is holding a gun to his head to make him keep seeing her and presents wouldn't be enough to keep him there if he didn't want to be. I'm sort of at a loss as to why you would want to stay with a guy who is willing to be with someone just for the presents, would stay unhappily because of them and has been using you for sex for years. Think carefully about what you really want and whether what you think you see is actually what's going on.
CD
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