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writes: hi i really need help as im so confused. it all started on tuesday in physics i was bored so i said randomly lets play truth or dare it went around the table then someone ask me truth or dare and i said dare and my friend said kiss (lets call him mike) i was like not here. 'mike' is a close friend and i can tell him almost anything. later on at lunch my friends kept annoying me saying kiss him and they kept saying it to mike too. i didnt kiss him as if i was going to do it i didnt want to in front of loads of people. i walk home with mike and we did just as normal but 'lauren' came too and during the walk my friend lauren said to mike truth or dare and he said thruth and so she said 'would you like it if 'nikki'(me) kissed you'. he said he would like it and me and lauren laughed. i went to school as normal the next day and my friends espically 'lauren' and 'fiona' kept saying kiss him and genrally being annoying. so in boilogy during a test he sent me a note saying 'i love you' though he has done that a lot. i sent him one back saying do you want me to kiss you, he said he wouldnt mind and ask if i would, i said i didnt mind. i sort of wanted to kiss him as i thought it would sort out my feelings for him as i was confused. you see im in love with my teacher and have been for about 2 years and mike is one of the few people i have told and he helps and is concerned about me as i have depression and really want to tell my teacher that i love him. lately me and mike have became closer and we seat next to each other in a lot of classes. he always tells him that he loves me and when we walk home and have to say goodbye he says 'i will love you and leave you'. i just ignore him most of time. i started to wonder if he actually meant any of it. going back to the dare we decided we would do it and when we were walking home he chose to walk the long way and we were opposite the park and i said when shall i do the dare. he said in the park and so we wnet there, it was empty and we paused and he said he was really nervous and then we kissed briefly on the lips and short time later said goodbye. then at school the next day in first lesson i told my friend '*keira* that i did the dare and she said that explained why mike was acting weird this morning. then in 3 lesson lauren said to me and keira that mike had talked to her on msn and had siad that he thinks he has feelings for me and said she thought he said to tell me but he didnt. during the day he acted weird and more closer to me as in touching and kindness. the next day my depression was really bad and i had a breakdown in maths first lesson. and during that i went out the room with fiona as she knows about my depression and i told her about my feelings for my teacher and what lauren told me about mike. fiona then said that earlier mike said to her he liked me. when i was crying in maths he kept patting my arm and stroking it and during that i was screaming in my mind for the teacher i liked. it was confused about mike all day as i thought i didnt have feelings for him in that way as i love *fred* (my teacher). at lunch i talked to mike and said that i didnt like him in that way as i in love with fred. he said he didnt feel that way for me and denied that he sent a message to lauren saying he had feelings for me. i then tolded my friends as they wanted to know and they called him a liar as they know he was liaring.so now im really confused as in geog today *emily* said to me that mike said to fiona that he loved me but not in those words. now i dont know how i feel about him as my feelings are full of fred but i konw nothing can really happen between us as he my teacher and probably doesnt like me in that way. i think mike likes me as he told my friends he did and during class i always feel his leg against mine and in physics he grabbed my leg suddenly. so what i need help for is does he like me and do i like him? also if he asked me out should i say yes or no or if he doesnt should i tell him how i feel?please help as im so confused and soz that it is so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I think you should be with mike. Mike will be yout replacement because i like a teacher too but i know for a fact that we will never be together. I mean i cry all night but now i know that one of my friend likes me and i mean i like him as a friend but i said i would go out with him. Well now we are in love and i dont like my teacher anymore and i am really happy i got a replacement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Why are there so many posts here from girls like you who are in love with their teachers, or who have crushes on or are sexually attracted to their teachers? Can you, or anyone else here, explain why so many teenage girls are attracted to these men? I mean, some of teachers in these posts are in their late 40s? How could a teenage girl be sexually attracted to a man so much older than her? If anyone has any insight on this subject, especially female readers, please share it? This subject confounds me, because this kind of thing didn't happen when I was in high school in the early to mid-70s.
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reader, AbiMF  +, writes (15 December 2007):
You're confused, that much is evident. I truly have no idea what you should do about Mike (yes big help, I know) but you need to get over this crush on your teacher. I know everyone's probably been saying this, but I've just about managed to get over a huge crush on a teacher so I now what it feels like. I found that I needed to truly, as in deep down right at the back of my mind try to accept that nothing was ever or could ever happen. That takes time, and you also need to try and keep your mind off him. Correct me if I'm wrong, but if your mindset is similar to that of mine and my friends you probably often see situations on which you could end up together, songs remind you of him, you spend half your conversations trying to work him into it. Don't. It doesn't help. Try and LET yourself fall for other people, whether that's Mike or someone else. But you'll be supressing your feelings for anyone else, because you feel that you should be 'faithful' to your teacher. Accept that you're not with him and never will be and it will get better, I promise. But you do have to WANT to forget about him, and that can be hard. I know, I've been there,Abi xxxPs. mail me if you want a chat x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): oh u poor thing.i dont reli know how 2 answer ths question properli, um...u probabli admire him ("mike"), but u dont feel loving him the same way as u feel 2 "fred". www.teenadvice.about.com/ - try out ths site (it's good).next question - if he asked u out, u may say yes, however do not make the date toooo romantic, otherwise he could probabli take the experience the wrong way.or...saying yes - go with some other friends - make the date memorable without hurting anyone.but...whn u say no, try not 2 hurt him. just when u think he's soon gonna ask u out, try and put 2gether a "talk", making sure he understands u dont love him that way. say sumthin like..."i luv u, yr my best mate, and u gotta admit - u hav soft lips, but those lips dont deserve any more pashings from me. you'll always b there whn i need u" - somthin like that. dont b serious - b kool withit.
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