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writes:I met this guy at a college party and we exchanged numbers. At first we were texting constantly and having video chats since we both go to different colleges and don't have the opportunity to see each other. At the start we were equally texting each other but now its gotten to the point where I'm mainly texting first. He always responds to all my messages but not as quickly as when we first met. (and they are also actual messages and not one word messages) I'm worried I might be boring him since even I have run out of things to say and talk about. I would really like to get to know him better and I want to know what I can I do to improve the circumstances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell checking in I haven't texted him since Monday night and the most I got from him was a Facebook like on my post I'm not sure where to go from here now.
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reader, Here2HelpU  +, writes (4 April 2013):
'And to answer you Here2HelpU I do like him but I don't want to invest time in someone that has none for me and end up hurt'.
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Yes of corse, nobody wants to invest time and get nothing back, but reading over what you first posted, it seems like you both get on very well and stuff, maybe his taken for granted the fact you will always text him first, therefore it may be a possibility that he will never text you first because his waiting to receive the conversation starter from yourself.
Like I recommended, wait for him to come to you, you could wait from 2 days to 5. See what happens. If he does text you, you carry on liking him and carry on the phone chats and video chats.
All the best J
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd to answer you Here2HelpU I do like him but I don't want to invest time in someone that has none for me and end up hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI actually didn't consider that he may be going along for the ride well I have decided I won't be messaging him anymore until he makes the same efforts as me I feel like I'm pushing so much more then him and I don't want to be strung around either.
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reader, Here2HelpU +, writes (2 April 2013):
Regarding you running out of things to say. Im guessing that you may text each other a lot and reply quickly. How about this - after receiving the text wait 30 minutes to an hour and then send your reply.Obviously I can tell that you like him, how about just simply waiting patiently for him to text you. Yeah it will be painful not to text him first but how bout wait 3-4 days and see what happens. You might be surprised as he may come to you after a couple of days. However there could be a risk that he may never text you and in that case he doesnt like you.I can tell you through experience, I waited 3-4 days before after i felt i was bugging this girl like crazy. And she came to me in the end. Good Luck
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 April 2013):
 If you are the one doing all the starting... then he's just going along for the ride.
if you live closer than 2 hours apart and it's been more than a few weeks and he's not making to move to get to know you more in real life, then there is not a lot you can do...
if you have asked to meet up and he said yes then the ball's in his court.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have never phone called each other and I'm not a real fan of it personally especially when I have nothing to say. But I did actually text him to ask to hang out I guess now it's just a matter of making time for it
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