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writes:Hi everyone. I'm 21 years old and I live with my father and brother. The thing is, I really want to move out and be on my own but I just can't afford it. Let me explain my situation. My father is retired. I love him to death but he stays at home all day, he doesn't have any hobbies, doesn't go out much, etc. My brother is 1 year younger than me, he has a part time job but he's also always home, up all night until early morning playing video games and is always being very loud. It really can be bothersome when I'm trying to sleep. I have very little privacy in the home and I feel quite uncomfortable. I can't walk around in tank tops and shorts when it's hot, because I feel weird. I share a bathroom with my brother, I can't really have friends over because there's really no room for anything. Being a 21 year old woman living in a small house with my father and brother is making me crazy, lol. And just for the record, I lost my mother at a young age so she is unfortunately not in the picture. I do have a full time job, but I don't make that much to be able to afford my own apartment. What happened was I obtained a 2 year degree from my college, and it wasn't until the end of my last year to realize that this degree I chose probably isn't going to work out.... It's almost impossible to find a permanent full time job. I've only been offered part time/Temp jobs. It's very competitive and 6 months and tons of applications and interviews later, still no job. I just can't afford to go back and get a different degree. So for now I just stuck with an office job making just a little over minimum wage. I was thinking about a roommate, but don't have any friends that are in position to do this. They either already have roommates, live with their partner, or live at home. I am not in a relationship. Don't get me wrong I love my family and I'm lucky to have a place to stay, I just can't handle it anymore. I want to be on my own. I want my privacy, time to myself, etc. I'm just at that point but can't afford it and don't have a clue what to do. I feel a bit hopeless. I'm not happy where I am. What should I start doing about this?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2015):
 a google search "is there a safe roommate finder for adults"
brought up lots of websites
https://www.google.com/search?q=is+there+a+safe+roomate+finder+for+adults&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8#q=is+there+a+safe+roommate+finder+for+adults&spell=1
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 February 2015):
 Does it necessarily have to be someone you know for sharing a place together ? yeah of course if you share with a good friend it's more fun and you avoid a lot of adjustment/cohabitation problems ( at least in theory ). But I know tons of people who found a roommate placing an ad or answering one or through word of mouth etc. If you are unlucky of course you may always end up with psycho roommate from hell, regardless of all your prudence, background checks, thorough interviews and formal, signed agreements about who will do the dishes- but most people rooming with strangers manage to handle the circumstances, and at times even to thrive in them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2015): Have a look for ads for people needing a roommate,, or houseshare, or a studio flat(1 room) in stead of an apartment? Get a job one night a week waitressing to support your current income too maybe?
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (19 February 2015):
Anything worth achieving in life is done with hard work and dedication. Some luck is involved but it only kicks in when you are putting your best foot forward. If you want to move out you have to be making the money to do so without having to depend on anyone else. You did not plan this in your degree so you just have to plan it now. Start scouting around for higher paying jobs that might require harder work. If you have the free time you might want to learn to pick up a trade or another skill.
Considering your circumstances, you should really try to make some friends. You can get through the world fine without friends but helping each other is the only way to truly survive in society. Even billionaires need to have their status in society well established. Don't need a whole lot of friends, just a few good ones.
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