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writes:Sooo this isn't really a relationship question, but I just need some advice. I'm 5'3, I use to weigh 5 stone. I went to hospital and put on 4 stone, the medication I was on had a side affect of weight gain. Since then I've lost 1 stone; so I now weigh 8. I'm slim but curvy, I think most of the weight is on my ass. It's quite big, but it's okay 'cause boys I know like it. I don't want to be 5 stone again, 'cause I was too skinny, but I'd like to get down to 6 stone. I'm a UK dress size 6-8, sometimes 10 when things like jeans won't go over my hips and ass. After leaving hospital I've become a vegetarian, but I've really lost my appetite. I know skipping meals isn't healthy. But I just don't get hungry anymore. I'm also trying to do more exercise. Do you think I should loose weight? If yes, then do you have any tips on how I can? I want to do it casually so my mum doesn't get worried. Also, I've got stretch marks on my breasts and thighs 'cause of my sudden weight gain, I'm using a cream and they're starting to fade. Is there anything else I can do about them?
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reader, a_maldita  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 Ive been having the same problem I guess. I started loosing weight when I was very depressed. Seems like everything I eat taste no good and I really lost my appetite in eating. I usually skip 2 meals in a day and I still don't feel hungry at all. Now I'm trying to eat well balance diet but still having hard time though.
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reader, .Here.2.Help. +, writes (25 June 2011):
.Here.2.Help. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey. I want to make it very clear that I do not have an eating disorder! I love the way my body looks, I just want to be healthy. Hearing about the BMI is alittle shocking, I won't try and loose too much weight. I probably need to work on toning things up rather than loosing things. It's hard 'cause everyone else in my family is slightly over weight, so there is this pressure that everyone else is putting on themselves to loose weight and it rubs off on me. I don't want to tell my mum 'cause she worries too much, I've told her that I want to diet and she said that's okay.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 I agree with CindyCares that you are proposing to go to a dangerously low weight. Please seek help from your physician and do not risk your health and well-being for some magical number on a scale. What size you wear matters so much less than if your heart and kidneys work properly.
See your doctor.
The stretch marks will go away if you eat a healthy diet and give your body the nutrients it needs to repair itself. Otherwise, they will stay.
Talk to your mother about what you are thinking of doing. This is extremely unhealthy thinking you have going on here. Be well.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (25 June 2011):
Ok well assuming you're telling the truth and have a distorted sense of weight after your illness (which I struggle to believe) I'll try and clarify it for you.
A normal BMI for an adult is around 18.5 - 23. Anything under 17.5 is considered anorexic. At 6 stone and 5ft 3 your BMI would be 14.9.....so you would be extremely underweight
http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
So don't go on a diet, if you've already been in hospital your body won't need the added stress. Also I would be interested in hearing why you don't want your mum to know?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 I have trouble believing you are serious : you want to get down to 6 stones ? That would be 38 kg. right ? Absurd.
That would be the weight of a prepubescent child ; at your age and height, you'd be dangerously and unsightly underweight !
You current weight is just perfect, in fact it is on the slim side, not that you need to gain weight if you don't want , but even with a few pounds more you' d still be within a healthy and nice looking range.
You say that you don't have an eating disorder and we have to believe you, but then if you are seriously considering getting down at 6 stones , either you are grossly misinformed, or you suffer from some sort of body dismorphic disorder, I. E. you are not able to see your body as it really is.
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (25 June 2011):
 Hiyaaa,
Just like what all the aunties said you shouldn't lose more weight.
You can tonned up so you look like a dancer or something like that by doing exercise, cardio like walking at a fast pace or running/jogging even skipping is really good.
Strangely trampolining is a good sport to that is if you have one or your mates have one and you can do wiked stunts and tricks on the trampoline!
Swimmings good I mean the bloody weather in London at the moment is sooo freaking hot I CAN'T STAND IT! So swimming would be good.
Honestly just eat healthy and eat what you want when you want because most guys, honestly I've actually asked them... I've asked them do you prefer skinny girls or curvy and you know I've asked like 24 guys and just two of them said skinny and the rest said curvy so you shouldn't be ashamed!!!!
Just really eat plenty of fruits and veg and don't deprive yourself of food because that would get you moody and no one likes a moody cow! And you don't wanna lose anymore weight because if you wanna be a size 6 you know how hard it is to find clothes honestly its sooo flipping hard and if you wanna impres your man with a lovely prom/evening wear gown good luck trying to find one!!!
Hope my advice helps!
Embrace your beauty!!!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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reader, .Here.2.Help. +, writes (25 June 2011):
.Here.2.Help. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for your help. I didn't have an eating disorder, that wasn't why I was in hospital. I don't think I have an eating disorder now. It's not that I think I'm fat or anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): I don't think you should lose anymore weight. Were you hospitalized because of an eating disorder? Your preoccupation with weight, losing it, food and exercise and your mother's concern about you losing weight seems to point to a struggle with something like anorexia.Please, be content with your weight. You are perfect as you are! Exercise to build muscle, and cardiovascular health. Don't deprive your body of nutrients. Please listen to me! I've struggled with an eating disorder half my life. My body is ruined. My metabolism is scary-slow. And my body eventually returned to it's original weight...not because I ate more, but because my kidneys are failing and am retaining so much water. :-(Having an eating disorder is the only thing about myself and my life that I regret. I hope you find the strength within yourself to make a full recovery.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): I wouldn't advise it at all, you're at a fairly slim but healthy weight.It sounds like you've already had problems with eating disorders and now you want to start dieting again? Surely you can see the risk with this? Hiding it from your Mum too, why would that be if you just wanted to lose weight healthily and sensibly?I remember I went on a diet and when I reached my target weight I just wanted to keep losing because it gave me such a high to know I'd reached my target. When I got down to just under 7 stone (I'm the same height as you) I began to feel terrible, no energy, depressed, weak and when I went to visit my gran the first thing she said to me was "well you look terrible, you've taken it too far now". So I ended up gaining weight and it levelled at 8 stone and everyone began saying how much better I looked, I got far more attention too from guys who now realised I wasn't 12. At six stone, I imagine you'll just look a skeleton near enough and I also think you overestimate your ability to not go back to 5 stone. I began saying to my mum that yeah I would stop because I thought 7 stone was too skinny when I reached 8 to stop her worrying I was getting obsessive about it.So just carry on as you are, stretch marks fade on their own in time. Unless you want to end up in hospital again.
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