A
female
age
13-15,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I'm a preteen girl and I have truly fallen in love for the first time in my life. The guy is a year older than me, but we get along really well and he definitely doesn't care about my age. He was actually the one who started up a conversation with me one day, and from that day on I knew I liked him a lot. Since then we've become better friends but still sometimes awkward. We are both really shy, so usually when we see each other it is just a quiet, "Hey, how are you?" and a smile (but no one else knows how meaningful that seemingly innocent smile is!) Sometimes we do talk for longer periods of time, but only if we are alone. We have similar interests, and actually have a lot to talk about. The thing is, I am having problems with my friends about this relationship. They are not jealous; they, being wonderful friends, want to help me get together with him. They don't realize that I want to let the relationship play out and see where it goes, and all they're doing is interfering by writing anonymous love letters that "sound like they're from me" (fortunately I got ahold of all of them before they were found...) and things like that. Their intentions are good, but how do I make them realize that this guy and I get along really well without all of that? And, this is kind of off-topic, but how can you tell if a guy likes you as a friend or wants you to be his girlfriend?
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 You just need to talk plainly to your friends and tell them the two of you are getting on just fine without any outside help. Tell them you want to get to know him better and plan to move to love letters in your own time!
As for the lad, be friends! Try to spend as much time with him as you can... for instance, get him to walk home with you and stop for a milk shake or something!
When you get the time to talk, you could tell him how your friends keep trying to pair you up and watch his reaction.
But my suggestion would be to make friends with him and treat him like you would one of them. One year difference in age should not get in the way, but you might both be a bit young to date as such. It is a good sign, however, if he makes an effort to spend time with you!
Good luck!
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