I want to know if he really likes me, but I don't want my friends playing Cupid!

A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hey, I'm a preteen girl and I have truly fallen in love for the first time in my life. The guy is a year older than me, but we get along really well and he definitely doesn't care about my age. He was actually the one who started up a conversation with me one day, and from that day on I knew I liked him a lot. Since then we've become better friends but still sometimes awkward. We are both really shy, so usually when we see each other it is just a quiet, "Hey, how are you?" and a smile (but no one else knows how meaningful that seemingly innocent smile is!) Sometimes we do talk for longer periods of time, but only if we are alone. We have similar interests, and actually have a lot to talk about. The thing is, I am having problems with my friends about this relationship. They are not jealous; they, being wonderful friends, want to help me get together with him. They don't realize that I want to let the relationship play out and see where it goes, and all they're doing is interfering by writing anonymous love letters that "sound like they're from me" (fortunately I got ahold of all of them before they were found...) and things like that. Their intentions are good, but how do I make them realize that this guy and I get along really well without all of that? And, this is kind of off-topic, but how can you tell if a guy likes you as a friend or wants you to be his girlfriend?

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