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writes:Ever since I was about 14 I have always been in serious relationships! when I was 15 I got into a relationship that lasted 3 years and I got engaged! I finaly left him due to problems that had been going on for a while and had, had enough of it! but then a week or 2 later got into another serious relationship and have been with him for nearly a year now but...I seriously regret never having that crazy teenage time of being able to go out and flirt with random guys and drink and be able to do things without having to think about someone elses feelings.I do really love my boyfriend but I feel I will always have that ... resentment.I want to get out and live, I have been looking into like gap years and/or working holidays in like australia whatever but I want some freedom but I dont want to risk losing him.Alot of the time I wish i had meet him like a year later or something, but then I can't because to many thing may have changed.I have exlpained to him how I feel, he said he love me, but if I feel like that then I should do what I want, but I do love him and like I said don't want to lose him!Help please!Very mixed up girl!
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reader, zelous +, writes (15 May 2009):
zelous is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think a break may be a good idea, but im just to scared, im not good at things like telling them I want to go on a break, or not take things so seriously!
And I do love him and want to be with him, just not right now!
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reader, Charleybabes0811 +, writes (15 May 2009):
Personally? I suggest a break.
Or just don't take things so seriously! Alot of my friends are in serious relationships, and the way i see it is that you're just too young!
You need to get the wild side of you out while you can! I honestly believe that you cant have a real relationship until you've had that period of getting it all out of the way, you know?
Hope it works for you,
Charley :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): if he loves you, he will wait and behave ...
if you love him you will behave and comeback...
its based on trust...not lust...this crazy little thing called love.
I think you should go see the world. What about if he goes with you?
Star.x.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 May 2009):
 You can't have both. It's a choice you will have to make. Either you leave your BF and take some time and do the "singles" thing or you work through your resentment and stay.
Personally I don't see you making it with your current boy friend if you resent HIM for things YOU have missed out on. It's not really fair to take that out om him.
Maybe you DO need to take some time off. Traveling is always good for the soul. I did that a LOT in my late teens/early twenties.
If there is still feeling between the two of you after you have had your "sabatical" then maybe there is a long term future for you.
One thing though. If you go the "singles" route DON'T do the promiscious thing by sleeping with as many guys as you can. Go out have fun, flirt, enjoy life. It can be done :)
You seem like a girl who actually takes relationships serious, which is good, but if you want to "go out and live", remember that it is about personal growth, not massive amount of new sexual partners.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Well I completely understand where you're coming from as I was in a serious relationship just after my 16th birthday until last year. Also my best friends was in a relationship from the age of 15, she married him and they divorced in less than 2 years as she felt the exact same way that you do now. It's tricky because you sound like you do really love your boyfriend. Of course if you just wanted to go out and have fun, live a little then that would be okay, having a boyfriend doesn't mean you can't do thoses thing but if you want to flirt and see other guys then you're going to have to ask yourself one question. Which do you want more? Your boyfriend or a carefree single life? Weigh up the pros and cons, nobody can blame you for wanting to do the things your peers were doing years ago and I think you're right that you may end up resenting your boyfriend. Nobody can tell you what to do hun, only you can decide. Good luck x
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