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I want out of this love triangle

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Question - (13 December 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 December 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Hi,

I was on here earlier this month regarding a love triangle between an online guy and my friend. The guy seemed to be stringing us both along but has now apparently settled for my friend - who isn't being completely honest about it all!

I have since told the guy I don't want to be part of his love triangle anymore, when I was feeling stronger - but the thing is I still have feelings for him and can't seem to forget about it! Also - I'm still meant to be going to a show in the New Year with the friend (I have her ticket) who I don't completely trust now but neither of them keep in touch as much.

What should I do? I feel like I've been stabbed in the back by not one but two people - and can't seem to get it out of my head.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2014):

No I'm a different one Ciar!

Thanks for the links Ruby!

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (13 December 2014):

Ciar agony auntOk, thanks for the links. I hadn't even noticed that the link I provided was from a woman in the US.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2014):

I recall this question, asked two or three times now and each time you have really been given sound advice.

This is a man you barely knew and barely know - you need to let it go. If you're friend is lying to you then maybe it is because she can see you will overreact if she tells the truth. For whatever reason it didn't work with this guy but he was a slimy idiot and initially tried to keep contact with you and her and to be honest it sounds like you're best off without him.

What you had with him wasn't a real relationship, you met online and it didn't work out. Start having dates with other people and stop pondering over what might be if your friend didn't go out with him. If they're happy then leave them be, maybe she's not the greatest friend and you can take someone else. You'll have to get in touch with her and see how she feels about still going, and you will have to consider how you feel about going with her.

If you don't want to then simply say things have been too awkward and you'll take someone else and return her money etc...

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (13 December 2014):

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-guys-really-give-up-on-women-that.html

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/would-pride-stop-him-from-giving-a-second.html

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-was-too-shy-to-start--.html

I'm pretty sure these are the OP's previous posts on the subject. I don't think the link that Ciar provided is the same poster as she talks about having actually met the guy whilst this OP hasn't met her guy in the flesh. It's been a "flirting on social media" kinda thing as far as I can recall.

I shall try to write you a longer reply later

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (13 December 2014):

Ciar agony auntBefore I answer, is this you as well?

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-he-just-playing-me-could-he-really.html

The stated ages are different but the scenarios are almost identical.

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