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writes:I met with my first love after breaking up over 20 years ago. I had not seen him for 15 yrs. He invited me out and then again a few months later. On both occasions we talked and talked. On the second we talked and talked about what caused the breakup. After much resistance from me we ended up having sex although I did not give my all. He was so passionate and I felt something special. It did not feel like lust. He held me for ages and I feel he was thinking about how he had hurt me in the past. I with held things that he wanted me to do and he respected me for it.I feel I may have spoilt things by sleeping with him. He realises that I have not quite ended with my current partner but realises that I am not happy. I do have a family. I am not in a commitment relationship and do not live together. Communication is a real problem whereas with my ex we talk so much about everything and he tells me probably too much.I would like to rekindle with my ex and I feel he wants to. I am playing hard and have not contacted him since our meeting. He did call me the day after and asked if I felt guilty. He wants to meet again but I do not want to keep sleeping with him unless he commits to me.Did I do the wrong thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2015): You cannot make him commit, but you can be open. Fist of all, let him know that he is important to you. Let him know how things really are in your still on-going relationship. Do not give him a hint, be blunt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2015): Thank you for your reply You Wish but I am not in committed relationship. He is a good dad to kids that's about all. We have not been intimate for months and do not live together.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (12 November 2015):
 You did the wrong thing.
Here's why: You can't try to get him to commit because YOU can't commit. You're cheating on your husband/partner with this guy! You said you're not ended with your current relationship, and if you're saying you have a family, then you're betraying all of them by going behind their back and sleeping around. You can't take short cuts in love, or you'll hurt and lose everyone.
Do you think he'll honestly commit to someone who treats commitment the way you're doing now?? You've justified what you're doing to the point where you can't even see the trail of destruction in your wake by your actions here.
If you're not happy, you end things honorably. You do it the right way. You want this guy to commit? Then BECOME AVAILABLE! Leave the one you're with, and face your kids like a woman.
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