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writes:I have a 3 year old kid, and i want divorce? My kid very attached to his moher. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): sometimes its best for the child as well... you child would rather see both their parents happy even if it is not with each other... at the end of the day you have to consider both whats right for you and whats right by you child... in my personal opinion i would rather see my parents living happily without each other then see my parents forcefully living together and with the constant arguing and bickering
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): I am currently going through a divorce and I have two young kids. If I had to do it all over again I would say try your darnest to work it out with your spouse before going to the next step to file for a divorce. Sit down and have a good long talk with yourself and ask yourself what did "I" do wrong in this marriage? how can I make things better, when did the communication break down, what cause the problem? what can "I" do to fix it? (remember it takes two). I also would strongly recommend that you seek counseling, first for yourself and then for your spouse (family counseling). Kids are traumatize by divorce and it affects them in a lot of ways. I am writing this to you with tears in my eyes because I see what the emotional effect is on the kids. However if after you have gone through all the steps and it is still not working I would say to temporary separate with clear communication to the other person that this is temporary. That you need some time by and for yourself before filing the paper work for divorce. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Hi
Parents adults do split up sometimes but children involved...My brother and his partner worked out that although they were finished their relationship as parents hadn't, they each picked days and evenings that were suitable to each and shared the children, even flexible to help each other out etc. Three years on the children now six and four have a happy healthy home life with both parents and their new partners. I do know it is not always possible.. if one parent decides to use the child as a tool to get back at the partner, they are selfish and only the child suffers. Divorce the partner not the child that's the only advice i can say. Good Luck...p.s better to have two HAPPY homes and parents, than one miserable home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): If you want a divorce then that's your right. If you've thought it through & that's the right thing to do, then you should do it. Obviously your three year old is going to be attached to their mother. Divorce isn't an easy thing for a kid to adjust to, I've been there. But if you pretend like everything's alright it will just make it worse. Trust me. Do what feels right & know that your kid will still see their mother & you, it might not turn out to be the ideal situation but that may be a choice you have to make.
Good luck!
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