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writes: WHEN I was 17 I had an affair with one of my dad's friends who left his wife for me.We married and agreed not to have kids because he already had three and we couldn't really afford one of our own.But I am now 37 and my husband is in his 60s and terminally ill. I long for a baby but my husband is now impotent.I feel time is running out and, if I wait until he is dead, I might be too old to conceive. Then I read about the 63-year-old who is pregnant - could I get this treatment too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): Which paper was it then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): Well, I did write to the paper first...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): I saw this in a newspaper. It has been copied nearly exactly word for word. So how about leave willywombat alone? This isn't a personal attack it looks to me like a statement of fact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): willywombat wrote:
Please have you nothing better to do than make things up on the web?
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Errr...no personal attacks!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Please have you nothing better to do than make things up on the web?
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reader, Bibbi +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Have you ever considered adopting? Its alot safer than birth at your age. You can always adopt a child and that will save all the stress of having a baby! Try it out! Good Luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): hay! your question was in the agony-aunt bit of the newspaper too huh...
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Not sure what country you are based in but the 60-something woman having a baby is exceptional and went to Italy for the treatment as fertility licensing laws, and medical ethics, have prevented her (and women of her age) from having IVF in her home country. In the UK where I am based there is an upper age limit for consideration for IVF on the NHS (it varies between areas but is around 40). As you probably already know, IVF isn't instantly successful and it can take up to 6 cycles before anything happens. You say that your husband is terminally ill. It is possible to obtain his sperm medically (depending on his medical condition) but obviously this would require his consent etc. The alternative would be a donor. I should add that private IVF is an expensive treatment so your first step would be to contact your doctor for some general advice on infertility services available in your area. Obviously you should talk to your husband about this if he is physically well enough to cope with the discussion. It is possible to have a healthy baby in your 40's and many women are leaving it until later in life to start a family. However, there are various health risks (e.g. downs syndrome) that seem more likely in the babies of older mothers, not to mention the health consequences for the woman.
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