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writes:Advice? My bf has to find a roommate and found a nice place to live...I helped him look. Now he is completely trustworthy but he found a very nice place but the roommate would be female and she is decent looking. Should I worry? I have a male roommate but is it different when it is reversed? Again I trust him and its perfect place for him location and amenity wise so anyone think its a bad idea?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 June 2012):
 Why would you even question it? If you have a male roommate I agree with Serpico, you don’t have a leg to stand on.
Why would you think it would be different if you have a male roommate and he has a female roommate?
This confuses me…
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2012): I agree with Serpico, if you have a male flatmate you would be a hypocrite to bring this up. The fact is if he is trustworthy, then trust him. There is nothing wrong with him having a female flatmate, especially when you live with a male flatmate. He is with you so don't cause yourself needless worry.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (25 June 2012):
If you have a male roommate, you dont have a leg to stand on to even initiate the conversation.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (25 June 2012):
If you trust him, why are you worrying about this? There’s no difference between you having a male roommate and him having a female roommate. How would it make you feel if you thought that he was worrying about you living with a male roommate? Of course people compare themselves to others, but if you really trust him you shouldn’t have any objections to him living with this female. If he wanted some-one else, he’d be with them. Either he’s trustworthy or he isn’t, but if you really do trust him you’d be able to accept that your concerns have no rational basis. Can you do that? Or will you always have a nagging doubt? You need to figure out how much of an issue this is for you to know whether you really trust him or not.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Its natural to worry but if you trust him then you dont have to worry unneccesarily.
You have a male roommate ,your boyfriend accepts that and trusts you you can only give him the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe you two can consider moving in together so you dont have these kind of issues crop up in future,
goodluck :)
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