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writes:I've started seeing this guy whom I really really like. We have been friends for a long time and lately it has grew into something more and we decided that we would start dating. But the thing is that a while back when we were still just friends we were at a party and started talking about sex and relationships and stuff. I was drunk and don't know why but I lied to him and said that I have had sex but the truth is that I'm still a virgin. Now that we started dating we haven't had sex yet but it will probably happen soon. He doesn't know that I'm a virgin. Should I tell him that I am or should we just do it? I want to have sex with so the fact that I am a virgin doesn't matter to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012): You have this backwards. Your inexperience is an asset he will value, not something to hide. Tell him the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012): He will not mind!!!! Infact he will be over the moon that he will be your 1st and who knows maybe your one and only!!!
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reader, Htsn47  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 I'd tell him. I can't imagine how this would be an issue to anyone. Just explain that you were embarrassed to admit you were a virgin and a little tipsy at the time, and you're sorry you were untruthful. I'm sure he'll understand.
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reader, sarasos  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 beeing a virgin never was a problem for a couple that loves eatch other so much the fact that you're hiding !!you should never be ashamed of, because you kept it for the very good person who diserve that you lose it for him!!!!!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 I can't think of a man who would mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): You really need to tell him you're a virgin because if you don't and you do end up sleeping together he won't udnerstand your nerves and he may just have sex to please himself instead of taking into consderation its your first time. You want your first time to be special and with no lies, and if you do have sex and then he finds out he'll feel he can't trust you, but if you tell him beforehand and give him thr truth, say you were ashamed he'll be a good guy and understand and give you your neccasry needs and patience.
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 In my opinion your best off in the long run telling him the truth and why you said it if you even know why
and if you don't tell him I'm pretty sure he will find out sooner or later because loosing your virginity isn't a walk in the park! it's messy and it hurts!
Another thing is that loosing your virginity should be shared with someone, you don't want to keep this a secret from him forever especially if you end up being with him for a very very long time one thing you should never do is start a relationship off with a lie and a big one at that
if you truly care for this man you will tell him and if he is an ass about it then he wasn't worth your time or friendship especially if you explain why you did it
good luck and i hope all goes well for you!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 August 2012):
 Tell him. He is not going to dump over this, and IF he does.. his loss right?
Just explain why you lied.
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