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Worried I'm gay?

Q.   Well I'm 13 I like girls, but I'm scared I'm turning gay I kind of get excited when I think about a penis, I get hard when I think of a penis, but I would never want to have sex or kiss another guy I'm sure i was born straight, I mean when...

A.   28 November 2012: I wouldn't worry about it either. At your age, I recall having similar feelings. I'm heterosexual, am strongly attracted to women, and happily married. I think what you are feeling is quite normal, but not often talked about because people a... (read in full...)

Will my husband-to-be know that I've had sex before him?

Q.   I had sexual relation with my friend. Now i am getting married. I am worried about that can my would be husband will know that i had realtion with someone before marriage....

A.   7 November 2012: No, there is no way he can tell. Some men will expect a virgin to bleed a little her first time, but frequently that does not happen. And the hymen is very commonly broken from non-sexual activities, so it is not a reliable indicator. (Sadly, it ... (read in full...)

I can't cope with my girlfriend's history and don't know what to do.

Q.   My girlfriend had 3 boyfriends before me, I had 2. She's 24 and I am 28. We have been dating for 6 months, and it's a serious relationship to both of us. Recently, she asked me how many girls I've slept with before her and we discussed honestly ...

A.   7 November 2012: Can you make yourself be OK with this? It's not about forgiving her - that implies she wronged you, which she most certainly did not. Nothing she did is wrong. You need to find a way to accept the facts and move on. You are probably in shock an... (read in full...)

I suggested he be tested for STD's before I sleep with him and he took offence...

Q.   I am a 23 year old virgin and I'm dating a 24 year old guy,the reason I stressed on being a virgin is that I've waited for the right man to come along and I think he has, and I know it will happen soon.. but now I think he's not the one, cuz he took ...

A.   7 November 2012: You weren't wrong, he was wrong to react that way. Sadly, it's not that uncommon, however - we need to do a lot more education. I asked my GF if she had been tested before we had sex, and I went to get tested myself, even though I was a virgin, ... (read in full...)

Internet Online Dating and serious relationships - isn't it just truly a waste of time?

Q.   Hi everyone, I am so disillusioned with internet dating. Over the past few years I have joined a few dating websites hoping that at some point I will meet a man, who I get along with, have similar interests/humour, share the same values in life,...

A.   26 October 2012: It can work, but you what you say has some truth to it. I think it's harder for women than men. I met my wife through online dating and we never would have met otherwise. I know she was ready to give up on online dating too, but we are both... (read in full...)

How do I get my confidence back after all these years of harsh treatment from others?

Q.   Where to start...I'm 24-years-old, and have no friends. The reason is being I'm not confident enough in myself to talk to anyone other than basic small talk. My background: I was bullied very badly in high school. It started sophomore year (9 ye...

A.   25 October 2012: You remind me of my wife! She's very quiet, and sensitive. She keeps her life private from her coworkers too, which doesn't always help her. I think they think she's aloof, or has this perfect life and don't realize she's got the same struggles ... (read in full...)

Is my Bf implying that he's a virgin? He changed the subject when I asked.

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend and I were speaking about sex when he said "I can't compare my performance to anything? When I asked what he meant he changed the subject? So peeps my question is what are your thoughts on this? I automatically thought ...

A.   23 October 2012: Hmm, interesting. That's what I would have assumed from that comment too. It's possible he is was virgin and just embarrassed about it. I guess the other question is "does it matter?" I think people spent way too much time worrying about th... (read in full...)

After I asked him to used a condom he lost interest. He's drifting away from me. What can I do?

Q.   things has changed he used to text me every hour, checking up on how im doing and made time to see me everynight after work... ever since i told him that we should use a condom we never had sex at all i will tell him that i want him but he doesnt s...

A.   22 October 2012: He needs to grow up. If he treats you this way over such a simple, *NORMAL* request, then I wonder what else he will sulk over. As the woman, you face most of the risk from intercourse. It's just not fair of him to make you feel guilty over it. ... (read in full...)

If I say anything now it would destroy him? I do have a past from a LONG time ago. But is it best left unsaid?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. When we first got to know each other we spoke about our past a little and he wanted to see what kind of person I was. I knew where he stood with his past and he has only had sexual relations...

A.   17 October 2012: I wouldn't say anything to him. Try thinking about it like this: telling him would be selfish. You say it will "destroy him", so telling him may lessen your guilt, but at the price of hurting him. He will receive no benefit by your telling ... (read in full...)

25 and never had an orgasm! Help!

Q.   Hi I am 25yrs of age and has never had an orgasm.I've been with my boyfriend for 6yrs now and I'm clueless as to how to make it happen. Please I need some help cause my sex life is falling apart?...

A.   12 October 2012: What person12345 says is exactly correct: learn to masturbate. It's not fair to expect your BF to know how to bring to you orgasm if you don't know yourself! I think you should get a vibrator. There are websites you can order them from, if yo... (read in full...)

Why do I shake when near climaxing? I'm embarrassed. Is it normal?

Q.   So when and my boyfriend are doing foreplay I obviously get turned up to the point of climaxing and when I know I'm nearing that I get him to stop. I do this because I tend to shake when I do. I'm worried that he'll find it weird which is why I st...

A.   11 October 2012: Speaking as a guy, I don't think it's weird at all - it's exciting! Who wouldn't want to know that what you are doing is bringing a lot of pleasure to someone you care about? I can't think why he'd think it is weird or anything else negative.... (read in full...)

Did we have sex too early in the relationship?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now and we began having sex about 5 months into our relationship. The problem is it seems like the sex isn't interesting to either one of us anymore. I mean she says she enjoys it, and maybe sh...

A.   21 September 2012: It's normal, and not a result of having sex too early or too often. The "spark" can't last forever - eventually that intense sexual excitement fades. It doesn't mean you don't love each other or find pleasure in the experience, it just means the ... (read in full...)

Scared to talk about sex with my boyfriend...

Q.   I've just met the man i love and he's working away and comes back on weekend. I'm ready to have sex with him and i'm sure he wants it but we're both scared to start the topic. I so wish i could have sex with him. I don't know where to start. Should ...

A.   21 September 2012: Of course you should! Maybe he's just being respectful! Have either of you had sex before? You have a great opportunity to set a tone for your relationship where you can talk about sex openly. That can be a huge benefit. I'm really thankful my ... (read in full...)

Why is it so difficult for me to get a girlfriend? Why am I always the guy who girls don't look at in a romantic way?

Q.   I give up. What does it take to be dateable? I just don’t get it. I’m told that I have a great, easygoing personality. I’m pretty average I’d say. 5’9, 150 pounds, thin to medium build. I’ve even been told by both my male and female friends ...

A.   21 September 2012: You sound a lot like me. Sometimes the women who are right for you take a little time to realize they are looking in the wrong places. Maybe you are the type of person who gets less attention in your 20s but will be more attractive and d... (read in full...)

Is it normal to not feel pleasure during sex?

Q.   Hello there! I suppose this is quite to the point, but I literally feel nothing during sex. At first, sleeping with my boyfriend was painful. But that's normal and we've gotten through that, but never once has it been pleasurable. I'm gett...

A.   10 August 2012: I'm no expert, and I'm sure women will chime in here. But most women have difficulty reaching orgasm from intercourse alone. It's not problem with you or your boyfriend - it's anatomy and biology. Some things to consider: do you masturb... (read in full...)

I told him I wasn't a virgin but I really am! Should I tell him the truth or just keep going along with it?

Q.   I've started seeing this guy whom I really really like. We have been friends for a long time and lately it has grew into something more and we decided that we would start dating. But the thing is that a while back when we were still just friends we ...

A.   5 August 2012: I'd tell him. I can't imagine how this would be an issue to anyone. Just explain that you were embarrassed to admit you were a virgin and a little tipsy at the time, and you're sorry you were untruthful. I'm sure he'll understand.... (read in full...)

Why would my boyfriend behave like this? He was most insistent about wanting sex.

Q.   Hi, I really need to know that you think is going through my boyfriends head because this has never happened to me before in any relationship I have been in. I was getting ready to go out with a group of girlfriends one evening. About an hour bef...

A.   28 July 2012: I agree, this was completely out of line and shows a lack of respect for you. It is a form of control - that he sees you, at least partially, as existing to fulfill his desires. Those desires, in his mind, come before your desires and your free ... (read in full...)

She's my Dream Girl. But I'm consumed with jealousy over her past. Can someone help me resolve this huge problem?

Q.   how do I stop thinking about my Girlfriends past and make sure its not the end of our future? I looked at many sites about guys on this subject but Wow all these dudes think they got it bad with like girlfriends having 3-4 partners more then th...

A.   26 July 2012: Please heed the advice the other aunts and uncles have given you here. The problem here is YOU, not her. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's how it is. She wants to be with you. She's been with other guys. So she knows a little about this - a... (read in full...)

I have anxiety/panic attacks and I'm afraid to tell anyone!

Q.   So I know this is really a relationship problem, but I don't really know where else to go right now. Lately, I've been having really bad anxiety, and I'm scared to tell anyone or go to a therapist. I'm only 16, and it gets really bad, I ha...

A.   16 July 2012: There are a number of things you can do. The advice the other people gave here is very good - remember that panic and anxiety mean you *feel* like something is dreadfully, awfully wrong, but it doesn't necessarily mean that's the reality. We are ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to touch me without being rude about it?

Q.   I've started seeing this guy and so far he's really nice and things are great. But there is one problem...he is very shy when it comes to physical contact. When we're making out I like it when guys touch my body all over and he doesnt really do ...

A.   12 June 2012: Ask him. :) I was/am still very inexperienced and I really appreciate it when my wife helps me make her feel good. Maybe he's just being respectful, or isn't reading your signs. Tell him, or just guide his hands. He'll get the idea. I can't ... (read in full...)

Is this normal for beginners?

Q.   Hy aunts,i have a little problem that i wil be happy if given some helpfull advice. My question goes.do teenagers suffer from erectile dysfunction? Im 19 and its the second time i'm having sex the thing goes like,i wil have an erection but i w...

A.   12 June 2012: It's normal, don't worry. Most young men get used to fairly quick orgasms because of masturbation, and then of course there is a lot of excitement with early sexual experiences too. So ejaculating quickly is not uncommon at all, or anything to ... (read in full...)

I've never had an orgasm with my boyfriend and I cant keep faking it forever!

Q.   Hey there ladies and gents. I am completely in love with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's now 20. We've been dating for almost 2 years now. Physically he is very handsome, tall, and somewhat fit. Emotionally he is super sweet, a little sarcastic, loving, ...

A.   11 June 2012: My mom, a former OB/Gyn, had the best response to this. A male colleague of hers was moaning about his patients who came in and complained about their unsatisfying sex lives. He asked my mom how she dealt with them. Her response? "I teach them ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about marrying her because she doesn't want sex anymore!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 18 months, and we have been living together for six months. When we started the relationship, sex was very good and quite regular at least one or two times a week but over the last five months i...

A.   11 June 2012: I agree completely with the other writers that her answer leaves something to be desired, but that you also need to communicate better. I realize it's a really hard topic and one we are trained not to talk about! I think you need to better explain ... (read in full...)

She used to talk to guys in the past and knowing this is killing me! How do I forget her past?

Q.   guys pls help me out..i hav a g/f and we are in a serious relationship from 7 yrs...but recently some incident took place by which she told me everything about her past...i thought that she would not talk or meet with other guys but i was completely ...

A.   27 April 2012: I don't completely understand your question. You are this upset because she *spoke* to someone of the opposite sex? I'm puzzled - how is she supposed to go through life without encountering any men other than you? I'll be honest, it doesn't ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend talks too much, what do I do?

Q.   My boyfriend is a really nice, genuine guy and everything is really good between us except one thing. He has this really annoying habit of interrupting me when I'm speaking. He has a very long-winded way of speaking and I always let him have his say ...

A.   19 April 2012: I have the same bad habit - I'm an interrupter. Part of it is my personality - I have an impatient streak - and part of it is coming from a very talkative family. My fiancée is a very quiet person, and I do tend to interrupt her - especially if I ... (read in full...)

How many dates before I can ask her to be my girlfriend?

Q.   hi everyone. i recently met a very lovely girl on an internet dating site, and at the weekend we are going on our 3rd date. i really like this girl and things seem to be going really well, which is odd as i normally dont ever get a 3rd date as im qu...

A.   22 March 2012: I think that depends a lot on the personalities of the people involved. I told my fiancée that I was not going on dates with anyone else after 3 or 4 dates, but we had been clear from the start that neither of us was interested in a casual ... (read in full...)

36 and never been in a relationship. What can I do to turn my love-life around?

Q.   I'm a 36 year old man who has never had a girlfriend in my life, not even a 1 week fling with someone, nothing at all. What am I doing wrong? I have tried numerous approaches, people say take them to dinner and stuff like that but I have never even ...

A.   22 March 2012:  I'm sorry, but the advice about being "uncaring and selfish" is just wrong. Ignore it. I know it's a horrible cliché, but maybe you just need to meet the right person. What are you doing to meet people? I was in a similar situation to... (read in full...)

Would most girls run away if they knew I had never been in a relationship at 27?

Q.   I'm curious as to what you women would think about a 27 year old guy who has no relationship experience and never had a girlfriend because he has experienced nothing but rejection, bad luck and simply didn't attract any interest from girls at all. ...

A.   21 February 2012: It will depend on the woman. I was a virgin when I met my fiancée at age 36, and hadn't dated anyone seriously since high school. She actually brought up the subject on our first date (which we laughingly call "The Interview" now), and later ... (read in full...)

My wife shared a hotel room with a male colleague!

Q.   Is it ever OK for a married woman to spend the night in a hotel room with another man? My wife has been working at this new job for 2 years. The company scheduled an out of town trip for seminars which will help her get a promotion that s...

A.   9 November 2011: I think you need to just let it go. Your wife says she tried to do what would have been appropriate - go back to her own room - but was thwarted by the locked door. That's obviously a very awkward situation for her to be in. You are right th... (read in full...)

Confused after sex with a friend

Q.   Okay, so I had sex with a friend of mine. He isn't my best friend, however, I feel like I can talk to him about anything. I also feel that he can talk to me about everything, as we can talk for hours. So the situation occurred after a night that I ...

A.   9 November 2011: Yes, you should talk about it. But it seems like you need to do some thinking yourself, too. You say you have a huge crush on him - does part of you want this to be more than a friends/platonic relationship? Best friends to lovers is awkward, but ... (read in full...)

How can I forget these images of my girlfriend with her ex's?

Q.   I want to know how can I take my mind off things from my girlfriend. She had sex with t different guys before she met me and several times with them but now I'm with her and since she told me I really got mad. It gave me the bad picture of thinking ...

A.   8 November 2011: Retroactive jealousy is a thorny issue. You have to let it go. You can't let it matter to you. You say you love her - why does the knowledge that she's had sex with someone else in the past change that? She wasn't choosing that person over you - ... (read in full...)

My father left when I was three and I just can't cope it with anymore. Not sure if I could be facing depression.

Q.   My parents got divorced when I was 3, he moved back home to Ireland, I don't actually have any memories with him, I remember the last day I saw him, at the airport saying goodbye, but I don't actually remember him being there. It never bothered me ...

A.   8 November 2011: There are a number of online surveys/questionaires that you can take that will give you a rough assessment of your depression risk. My gut feeling is that if you think you are depressed, you probably are - but I'm not a physician or therapist so I ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever met the one and let them get away? How do you accept it?

Q.   How do you deal with knowing that you have lost and ruined your chance with probably someone who could of been the one for you? That gut feeling that eats inside of you, the thought of knowing you met someone so amazing, who looks and you like no ...

A.   8 November 2011: Time heals almost everything. How long have you been feeling this way? It is perfectly OK to mourn a lost relationship; it's part of the process of moving on. If a long time has past and your feelings are still holding you back, then you might ... (read in full...)

I'm a 21 year old male virgin, and it's killing my confidence. How am I supposed to deal with this?

Q.   The situation: I'm a 21 year old male, in college, and despite attending a school famous for its academic programs and abundance of beautiful women, I'm still a virgin. Some clarifying information: 1. I have no religious or moral oppositio...

A.   7 November 2011: Chigirl's very thoughtful response is terrific, you should read it and think about it. But I'll give you a male perspective, having been in your situation. I was a virgin until I was 37. I would describe myself not that differently from you - I ... (read in full...)

How do I reveal that I told a lie at the start? I don't want to ruin our marriage plans for next year.

Q.   Hey guys, I need some advice.. I'm a bit ashamed about this but when I first started seeing my boyfriend over a year and a half ago, I told him I went out with one of my brothers friends before him. I only said this as I felt ashamed that I hadn't ...

A.   6 November 2011: Personally, I think you are worrying over nothing. This was a little white lie that hurt no one. There is no reason you ought to feel guilty over it, and if it was a fictional ex that would never enter the picture, I'd say you should just forget ... (read in full...)

Thinking of asking this guy if he'll be my first kiss? What do I say to him? How do I ask him?

Q.   I'm in my late 20s n never kissed a guy. I've waited my whole life for this one perfect kiss and guy and have well outpassed my expected timeframe. I really wanted to get this first before my next birthday, and before the new year. I talk to this...

A.   6 November 2011: Is "this guy" you talk about a romantic interest, or are you just thinking of asking him to kiss you to "get it over with"? If he's someone you want to or are dating, then go for it. I think you are probably building this up too much in your min... (read in full...)

I want to clear my conscience and tell the boyfriend of the girl I slept with what I did. Should I do this?

Q.   Hello all I did something very bad, and I'm quite ashamed of it I had sex with a girl who has a boyfriend. Sure, that happens all the time, but this girl...well...I work with her boyfriend, and I also work with her mum. idiot? yep i kn...

A.   3 November 2011: No, don't tell him. No good will come of it, and you'll just add fuel to the fire. You did something wrong but just deal with it yourself - imagine the pain you'll cause him by telling him. If his gf wants to confess to him, she should but you ... (read in full...)

Do guys eventually give up if the girl wont have sex with them?

Q.   do players get turned off by girls who don't want to have sex with them straightaway? surely at some point they lose interest and give up on a girl who won't give them what they want?...

A.   3 November 2011: A guy who is worth your time will not get tired and move on too quickly. Part of the question here is "how much time?" It's impossible to say... depends on the people involved. My gf and I in hs/college dated for three years and never had sex. ... (read in full...)

My emotions consume me

Q.   I'm so volatile in this relationship. I worry about where we are and where we're going and fearing an end that may not even come. I cry all the time both when I'm upset or misunderstood something and when I'm full of joy at the thought of ...

A.   2 November 2011: bardia: I understand what you are saying. I have been on and off anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications myself, and often wonder "why me?" Why do I need to do all this when other people just feel "normal" without so much effort? In the ... (read in full...)

Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?

Q.   We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...

A.   1 November 2011: If you think you are going to be in a relationship with the new girl, then no, you shouldn't do this. It will be seen as cheating. You think it is cheating too or you wouldn't be trying to justify to yourself. It seems pretty clear that you ... (read in full...)

My emotions consume me

Q.   I'm so volatile in this relationship. I worry about where we are and where we're going and fearing an end that may not even come. I cry all the time both when I'm upset or misunderstood something and when I'm full of joy at the thought of ...

A.   1 November 2011: Instead of taking antidepressants, have you tried talk therapy? Or getting some books on anxiety or depression and working on some of the techniques yourself? There are lots of resources out there that you might try. Also, not all antidepressants ... (read in full...)

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