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writes:My boyfriend cheated on me in our first month but he says he pulled away straight away and the other girl admits it was her fault. We have been going out for 9 months now and i told him a couple of months ago i cheated on him just to see how he reacted but because we had an argument before about something different he reacted calmly to this even though i didnt cheat on him. I have tried to tell him i didnt but how could i prove to him i didnt.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 It's a mystery to me why you would tell your boyfriend you cheated when you didn't. What is the purpose of a statement like that? Were you trying to see how much he loved you? Were you trying to hurt him? It just seems a bit childish, and a way of putting unnecessary strain on a relationship.
He may well realize you haven't cheated, and put it down to a stupid thing said in the heat of the moment. Either way, once you've said it, there's no real, definitive way to /prove/ that you didn't - which is why saying it was a silly thing to do in the first place, since you've now planted the idea in his head, regardless of whether you did or not.
Perhaps next time, think before you speak.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 I don't think there's a way to prove something like that.
Unless you're still virgin.
If you really want to tell him that it was to test him, there's no other way than telling him.
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