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writes:Okay, I've met a female that I find to be heaven sent and she has made it evident that she feels the same way about me. The problem is that we both have recently discovered that we have some kin in common. Apparently her Grandfather is my Great-Grandmothers' brother. I'm not sure, but I think that makes us like 3rd or 4th cousins. One, was I correct on our relation and two, is this something I should take a chance on or swallow with a grain of salt and walk away? I could really use some advice on this...
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 My guess is that she's your fourth cousin, given that the common blood link is your great, great grandparents. This is absolutely nothing to worry about. Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): While technically OK and perfectly legal, there's a definite "eww" factor. I personally could not date a relative. Even a 3rd or 4th cousin is just too close for me.In the same way, I'm in my mid-30's and I could not date an 18 year old girl. Sure, she'd technically be legal so I could do it and not be locked up, but I'd almost be old enough to be her father. That makes the idea something I can't accept. For me, your scenario has the same kind of moral quality to it.It comes down to what you can or can't live with. My guess is that since you've come her to ask, you already know you're feeling uneasy about it. My advice is there are so many girls out there, if you're having an issue with this particular one being a relative, even a fairly distant one, it is best to let her go now rather than later on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2012):
 barely related in my book
if you both feel the same GO FOR IT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input, k_c100.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 I'm no expert in tracing family history so I cant confirm if you are 3rd/4th cousins etc. Yes you are related, but it is a very distant relation and nothing to be concerned about.
If it is more distant than 2nd cousins then I honestly dont think it is a problem to have a relationship - you and this woman should be fine, dont worry about it and take a chance!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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