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*cha0514
writes:Well... I started liking this girl (freshman) a month or 2 into school... homecoming was coming up, and i asked her, but she declined because she said she couldnt... i didnt take it harshly because i knew she was taking honors classes (although i didnt really understand because i am too). What ever... about two weeks later i asked her again, and we actually talked more about it, and she said that she "couldnt becuase of so many things" she has to do like "balance soccer, honors classes, music" and that she "would if she had the time to"... well, 4-5 months have passed, and things have been kind of stagnant, but i do think they have gotten better... i know i have stronger feelings for her than at the beginning (obviously) but i dont know if she feels the same way about me.... one of my friends talked to her and said that she "couldnt because her parents dont let her"... another friend says that "her parents dont let her go to things like dances"... im not sure what to believe: she cant date, or she cant go to " dances".... i dont know what to do now: what to say, how to confront this issue, should i ask her again, will she accept, should i give up... i dont know... :( I would really love to be in a relationship to her, and i think it could work and everything, but i need opinions. I do believe she likes me, but its a matter of trying, and im also somewhat afraid to confront her and get rejected...again... Can you please suggest what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, justlikeu  +, writes (11 January 2012):
hey jcha0514,
obviously her parents are not comfortable with the idea of her dating..
i think the safest bet would be to get a friend of hers and ask if she also has feelings for u..girls may not like it if a guy keeps on asking her again n again..so ask her friend to know the truth...it will help u also for r decision..
if she agrees then obviously she really likes u since shes gonna go against her parents wishes..
do not pressurise her but..
all the best..
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reader, JakeChaucer +, writes (11 January 2012):
Dude just come out and ask her, tell her you like her and what you want. Worse that happens is she says no, The other way you'll never know, life is too short, get down to buisness and ask her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 January 2012):
 Sounds like her parents do not let her date or go to dances.
If i was a parent and did not allow my daughter to date I would not permist her to go to dances with a boy either... to me as a parent it's the same thing.
You are a rare and brave young man... normally after a young lady says no once a boy won't try again....
she may like you as much as you like her BUT if her parents say NO DATING what can be done?
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reader, Emily20  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 Well,i will suggest you give her time,but always make yourself outstanding,the best way to attract a female is to be seen with another female,to be outstanding,to be her hero,u most do something that she will be proud of,if you really care about her,then do it right,you know we women are very protective when it comes to loving,you have to break that barrier that is making her reject you,make her see reason why you want to take her own a date,when you do this,she will be the one to tell you about,the date you have always talk about,goodluck
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