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*redai3125
writes:My girlfriend has distance herself from me because she feels im selfish and is inconsiderate and when she needs me im not there...what can i do to change that about myself, to let her know i what to be there 100% for her..i do have alot of self issues i need to address but I've turned her heart cold against me..how can i not blame myself and stay positive? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): To know the self is to forget the self
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 It is good that you want to change and know what you have being doing.
Its as simple as you need to think more before you act, you need to make effort to spend time with her and think about what she wants and what she would like to do.
Think less about you and more about her and the two of you as a couple.
If it was may i would do something special for her like cook her favourite meal, or rent her favourie movie, nothing over the top just something that shows you care and that you know her.
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reader, JakeChaucer +, writes (11 January 2012):
Dont be selfish, you have to know what your being selfish about. Ask her make her be clear talk about it and fix it. If you cant fix it get a selfish girl and you'll see what its like. She puts up with your crap thank her for it and work on it. Seriously
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reader, Usagi  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 you have already taken the first step actually. recognising your issues is the first and biggest step. now you need to understand why you were not there for her and maybe discuss it with someone(and be honest about it). that is going to reveal what needs to be changed. when you find the answer to that, stop and think. is this something you think you can do? in how much time? if you believe you can change it actually, talk to her. open your heart and let her know why you behaved like that and that you decided to change but it cannot be done in a day. i think she will aprecciate it and even help you change :)
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