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writes:This sounds so silly, but to put it bluntly, I am a sexually confused teenage girl. I have never been in a relationship, never actually done anything, shit, i haven't even had my first kiss yet.(can you say doofus?) But still I think I'm a sexual person without being sexually active in any way.I drool over hot boys just like my friends, but within the past couple years I think I've started to look at girls too. Soooo, i think i'm bi. but like i said i don't have any experience to actually know. for all i know i could be a lesbian and hate a guy's touch. i think anything anyone has to say would be helpful. my parents don't really care about my sexual preferences, but it's not like they're going to give me advice about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): hi.. i know this was posted a huge while ago. but you literally just described my situation. even though im only 15. its nice to know im not alone.
And if you read this i hope you have found an answer and are at peace with yourself. x
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reader, natalieejanex  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 I think that because you're young and you haven't had sexual intercourse with either girls or guys that you should wait until you start dating but leave your sexuality open, as in bisexual and experiment. i'm not saying have sex with every guy or girl you meet or get with but take note of how you feel when you're with them and around them and if you do have sex, ask yourself "did i enjoy it?" you could just be confused and it could just be hormones so i'd leave your sexuality open for now. it could also be a sexual fantasy to have sex with a girl and its making you confused so until you actually start dating and experimenting, there's not really any way to fully know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): I am the SAME way as you. I've never been in a relationship with either sex, I've never done anything with either sex, and I have crushes on boys. I sometimes find myself wanting to be with a girl or wanting to have sex with girls. I dont know if I'm bi and I dont want to be. One of my best friends is bi and sometimes she holds my hand or says certen stuff to me. I act as if I dont like it cause I dont want anyone to accept I am since I dont even know what I am. I would not tell my parents about any of it, but thats just me. Unlike your parents my parents and other family members would not accept me as bi or a lesbian. So I guess Im just going to force myself to be/act strait. Listen to your heart and do what you feel is right. If you really want to tell your parents and ask for advice then I think you should do that. If you are really confused about it then I dont think you should tell your parents. Once you have your first relationship then you will know for sure if you like a guys/girls touch. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Checking out other girls really doesn't mean anything, can you picture yourself having sex with some of those guys you drool over? Can you see yourself having sex with the girls you look at? I agree it might be diffecult for you to find out if you are strait, bi or lesbien since you've never really had a relationship yet, but even if you are Bi or lesbien, that's fine, and it's your choice, so don't involve your parents lol
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reader, well-help +, writes (1 June 2009):
 i feel the exsact same way
iv never done anything
with either sex
but i know how your feeling
does whatching girl on girl turn you on
not to be blunt but it does me
and i thought about it and i decided i couldnt be in a relation ship with girls but could boys but i would be willing to experement with girls which makes me more bi-curious there this girl i kinda like at my school whos bi but shes like in love with her ex whos a boy and apparently she used to like me and when she found out i though i was bi she was pritty shocked but didnt take it the wronge was and i reckon if i wwas alone with her id find out if i truley was bi or not
so just try experement love :)
when ever your ready
if you just find woman attractive then it could just be a case of you looking at womanthinking of they hve nie leggs i wish mine were like that or admiration of the females body cos lets all admit it its amazing :)
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reader, Angel Baby +, writes (11 May 2008):
Hey girlie!! Well, I am bisexual. I know exactly what you are going through, I was there at one point. I think you should do what feels right to you. But, if you've never really done anything with anyone, there's not exactly a way to know. I'm not telling you to go out and have sex with someone, but maybe experiment, ONLY if you are ready. Or just think about it; do you get turned on when you think of another girl touching you in certain sexual ways??? If you need anymore help, I'm here for you. Message me if you'd like!!!
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reader, Nibblet +, writes (4 May 2008):
 You dont have to be with a girl to find out if if you like them, i personally think that your born with it. ask yourself this do you see yourself with a girl? or a guy? or both? I t6hink you should experiment date some girls and guys and find out what you like, just follow your heart!
Good Luck!!!
message me if you want to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): i think it's good that u have uni next year.. it's not a bad thing to not know before then! It'll be a great place to really figure yourself out.. you'll meet loads of new guys and girls and you can experiment all u like there! U don't ever need to label yourself.. just follow your heart and feelings :-) give it a few years to decide who u r still.
Feel free to private message me! And good luck :-)
xx Hope xx
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 well hun let me put it this way you have never been with a guy nor with a girl..so noone can decide for you if u are bi or a lesbian..u have to figure it out yourself..start dating guys first and see how it feels..your mature enough to figure out what u want!!
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reader, rachhbabes +, writes (3 May 2008):
i think you should maybe wait a bit, until your entirely sure. maybe find a guy that likes you, and flirt with him a bit, see if he flirts back and if you like it. but i suppose that wont tell you if your bi or not it'll just tell you if your a lesbian or not. lots of teenagers go through being confused about their sexuality. its not un natural. you maybe just need to experiment a bit until your sure.hope all goes well :)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): i just feel like i want to figure myself out before university next year. don't want to have to deal with new life changes and identity at the same time.
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