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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend only orgasms from penetration. Thats a huge problem for me because i am small in size and i have premature ejaculation. She can nver orgasm from oral sex. I tried many different things and even went online looking for new techniques but it just doesnt work. Its just killing my confidence and what makes it worst is that her ex bf was able to make her orgasm from penetration no problem. Which leads to him being larger, better technique and stamina. My pride is crushed and i cant do anything about it. My girlfriend is not sexually satisfied! What can i do?
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reader, Bellgrove  +, writes (2 July 2013):
Stop masturbating.
Really, it works. It's like a magic cure for all your sexual problems. Check out this website: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/
You don't need a doctor and you don't need any artificial sexual implements. There's nothing wrong with either of you, and there's nothing wrong with your penis size. Just follow the link, read the posts and start your 90-day challenge!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2013): Stop concentrating on her ex-bf and how much better he is.Each man has his own skills. You're too horny and too anxious. Take a cool down shower before sex.Uhm...how do you know about his stamina, penal size, and sexual abilities? Focus on the girl, please!If she has been making comparisons; and you're trying to live up to his "alleged" adeptness in the sack, you're in way over your head. All you know about him is what she has told you. She may be feeding you a bunch of BS.The truth is, she is ahead of your level of experience; and your performance will always be impeded by crap rolling around in your head about size, and trying not to ejaculate too soon. Oh and myths about her orgasms. I think she's been feeding you a few stories to get you going.In a nutshell, you're focusing on way too much stuff; and you are not emotionally mature enough for sex. Let her guide you and teach you what to do. It's okay to have a few mishaps. They happen when you're new at it. Your anticipation gets the better of you. You'll get used to the whole thing over time. As one of the agony aunts pointed out, if you're a little over-weight, it helps to drop a few pounds. Sorry, but size may count for some women. Those aren't the women you want to have sex with, if you have issues with your size.Physically and emotionally, you are still developing. Sometimes opportunities present themselves long before we're ready. So don't blame her and don't blame yourself.These things just happen.You'll settle down and get used to having sex, and things will likely correct themselves. Your manhood is not measured by the size of your tool; but by the quality of work you do. You are just on the threshold of manhood; so your awkwardness is to be expected. If she makes you feel inadequate; then slow things down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2013): Actually I think premature ejaculation is corelated to anxiety due to penis size.also it can be due to high sex drive specially in youngmen. you might be able to increase your size a little if you lose some weight if you are overweight But I think your real problem is not size. it is PE which you can overcome easily by stoping worrying about your size and have sex more frequently, also keep fit and eat healthy. stop worrying and remember women don't often go for size.They don't carry a tape measure to measure the size of every man they go out with. They, in fact like men who are successful,kind, and smart.
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reader, llifton +, writes (1 July 2013):
 let me tell you this. size doesn't matter. maybe it's too much info, but you can get a girl off with one tiny, little finger. i assure you you're bigger than that. so it's not anything to do with how big or small you are. don't let that get you down. it's where you're hitting. and it's how you're hitting it. read up on the g-spot and where it's located. it's about an inch or so inside of the vagina and has a bit of a rougher exterior than the surrounding skin. if you make a "come here" type of motion while hitting it, i assure you, you will get your girl off every freakin time.
who cares if you're premature? there's ways around it. like i just said, you can get off and then use your hand to get her off. or if you're comfortable, get a dildo and use that on her. there's no shame in that. or why don't you finger her or use the dildo on her first. then once she gets really close to cumming, then switch and finish at the same time.
good luck. it's a good thing that you care. i have faith that you will be able to satisfy her.
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