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writes:My ex who I was with 6 months ago is now back on the scene we met up and had a drink and he give me the distinct impression he wanted to get back together. We split up due to him being a work aholic. He said he's realised what a waste of space he's been and that he never meant to hurt me and how he wishes we could of just both talked about how we felt. He asked me If he could take me out this Weekend if i was free and he dropped me home and we kissed goodbye.Since we met up i have text a couple of times just asking if he was ok and that I'm free Saturday so if he wants to meet up then we cam do. he just replies with short answers like yes, no or ok, this gives me the impression he doesn't want to speak to me!He's now gone really quiet and hasn't been in touch. I still really love him and would love us to get back together, but I can't stand this not knowing. Can anyone give me any advice??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): Don't read too much into his texts. If the plan for the weekend is still on , even if he just texted 'yes' and nothing more, then it's still on and wait until you see him again to draw any conclusions.some people are really into texting long detailed messages and having entire conversations by text (I hate that, by the way). Others just use texting as the most basic and sparse form of communication (like me). Some people feel more comfortable texting with certain people but not others. e.g. since I only like to use texting for short succint 'get to the point' type messages, I am more comfortable texting people who do the same. I don't like texting with people who text long winded messages. So if I receive a text each from both people, I'm more likely to quickly respond to the other quick-texter, and less likely to respond to the long-winded one. Because with the other quick-texter I know that they won't text me back again unless it's really necessary. whereas with the long-winded one I'm never sure if my response will just trigger another dreadful never-ending text thread.I'm just saying that you shouldn't read too much into someone's style of texting, just read the content of the words. if you asked him if the weekend plans are still on and he said "yes" then that's all there is to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): I think the best thing you could do is ring him or send him a email explaining how you are feeling and maybe remind him of the things he said when you last met. Hope you get the answer you're looking for and it all works out
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 You should get back together because you are happy with each other and you come to know that he will make more time with you, not because it hurts not knowing and because you miss that feeling in the relationship. Really, what does this man have that other men don't that you have to wait so much, risk being hurt again? Why are you giving so much of your power to a man who would rather work than being with you? Talking about how you feel is useless if you are not satisfied with the limited time he is available to you. You don't know what he wants. I will tell you what he wants. He likes burying himself into work. He likes the illusion of a relationship by missing someone. He likes how much you miss him. He likes the power he has over you that no matter what you still want to be with him. If I were you I would tell him that I am not interested in a workaholic. Period.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Was he ever good at texting? Maybe he just doesn't like this method of contact, instead of texting, why not pick up the phone and call in and talk to him this way, least then you can get much more from him and figure out a little bit more of how he is feeling. Because honestly some people are just useless with texting.
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