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writes: I love my partner and we are due to get married soon. Problem is that I lied to him during in our first year together. I told him I had gotten an audition for a film part (Naturally I didn’t get it) that I have seen all these people in concert that he has. That I play the piano (but badly) and I don’t play at all. that I use to be very popular at school (I was a loner) and sillier none matter stuff. (Like what friend I went out with last night)I don't know why I did it. As soon as I moved in with him I stopped all the lies and we are a great together and love each other a lot. None of the lies were intended to hurt him. I guess I wanted to impress him and I was insecure. Anyway I am wondering If I should come clean and tell him those things I said years back are not true (although I have a feeling he knows this already) or do I just leave the past in the past. My best friend thinks I should forget about it and look to the future and the wedding.... What do you think? Thanksxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): The prob. is it could get you into an argument later. For ex. What if you are at a party and he asks you to play in front of people just for fun? I would just tell him that you liked him so much that you tried to impress him by exagerating a little on your piano skills and other things. Laugh about it, don't tell him like you are ashamed or is a big deal.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 Yeah, forget about them, just don't bring them up anymore. They seem fairly insignificant and you've already recognized that you did it because you felt insecure. As long as you don't continue to lie to him now, just let sleeping dogs lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): I definitely agree with your best mate, these things are insignificant and largely irrelevant, the chances are if you tell him it will sound like yo have a guilty conscience about something bigger, making him suspicious is not the best way to start married life. Forget the past and enjoy the future x
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reader, smoooches0814 +, writes (27 September 2007):
 Of course you should tell him. Its better to confess now because he will trust you more. Even tho he doesnt know you lied about anything, and if you dont tell him, he will never find out, if you did tell him tho, at least he'll appreciate your honesty.
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