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*luke
writes:I think I made a mistake in ending my relationship with a girl who was deeply in love with me. I had reasons but did not make it known to her. She was quiet confused, but just agreed for our separation. I'd love to make up with her but will she be willing to hear me out? I'd like to apologize and have her by my side again, will she be tolerant and understanding if I made a bold move?Help needed very much. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2013): Why do you want to go back? Why did you leave? You say she was in love with you leaves me thinking you are without a partner and think she will take you back, you don't mention your feelings of love for her...your omission speaks volumes to me. Give her closure but honestly dont hurt her twice if your being slfish.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 August 2013):
 the only way to know is to approach her and ask..
I would offer a lunch meeting (your treat) in a quiet but public place... offer to meet her... tell her you have been thinking and want to talk...
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (16 August 2013):
 Ovbiously she may not be the most happiest women in the world, as you did break up with her, which may of left her unhappy and confused. How long ago did you break up with her? If it has been over a long period of time, she could of moved on. If it was a short while ago however, then I agree with the first comment, ring her up, chat to her and tell her most importantly whats on your mind, tell her why you regret it. We can all make silly decisions when it comes to relationships and regret them later on, so don't be too hard on yourself. Talk to her and invite her out for a coffee, and prove to her how deeply you feel for her, however if she does not wish to meet up or maybe feels she does not want to get back with you, then it is best you respect her descions and leave it there. Good luck x
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (16 August 2013):
 Hi, you can call her and ask her to meet for coffee. If she accepts the invite that can be a start to try and get her back.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (16 August 2013):
 you want her back , what is stopping you. if you don't go and make an attempt you will always wonder what might have been. " i had reason but did not make it known to her". what ever reason you had tell her you messed up, tell her from your heart you want her back. tell her the reasoning behind the breakup let it be known to her.
"i would love to make up with her but will she be willing to hear me out?" you will never know unless you go and face her with your heart open to her.
my advice don't put it off,go to her. she was deeply in love with you, the chances are she is still deeply in love with you, but hurting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2013): if you two broke up and didnt tell her why id imagine she would be very upset and quite rightly confused by your actions.
I definatly would get in touch, but if theres a chance she wont hear you out over the phone or face to face, write her a message(email or something) and be very thorough about what you want to say. make sure she understands your reasons.
And make sure she knows why you want her back too
(women tend to make up their own minds about why a relationship has gone wrong, for closure, and because she knew nothing as to why it ended, she could of assumed you'd met someone else etc.)
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reader, maria.niz  +, writes (16 August 2013):
I guess it depends on how long your relationship lasted. I mean, if it was a serious relationship and you truly want her back, well, then tell her that you made a big big mistake. Explain to her the reasons you had for breaking up with her, and tell her that you want to fix the things up.
If she was so in love with you, well, she will listen, women always do - at least if this didn't happen thousands of months ago.
good luck!
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reader, thinkb4 +, writes (16 August 2013):
There is only one way to find out.
You do not mention the reasons, which makes it difficult to say any more.
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