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writes:(very long story) I was dating this guy a few months back, at the start of the year, we dated on and off throughout the year we kept breaking up for different reasons, girls being the main one.. We got back together about a month ago, I broke up with my boyfriend to be with him, because I still missed/loved/had feelings for him.. This time our relationship is SO much better, hes so sweet, caring and tells me he loves me (last time we dated on and off he would never say it, unless I was upset about something) he now calls me "baby/babe/his girl" etc.. I have fallen even harder for him this time around, and I'm so scared he will break my heart again. (we broke up the second time due to him seeing another girl, and seeing me, I know it sounds really bad, but I've forgiven him and put him through hell over it, he admits he made the biggest mistake of his life and regrets it, he also has NO contact what so ever with this other girl, I know for sure) But there is one thing that is bothering me... I asked him if I could put our relationship on Facebook to make it official (even though a lot of people know were together)and he said:"I personally wouldn't because I don't want any hassle off people to be talking and causing issues, I'm not ashamed of you, I just don't want drama, but its up to you.. I personally wouldn't but you do what you want"... I'm not sure if I should be worried, because the GF he had after seeing me the first time had it on Facebook with each other? or is he possibly trying to make sure our relationship doesn't screw up like the last few times?... I want to put it on there so much! but he doesn't.. what do I do? I'm not sure if I should just not do anything and not put it on there, but I want everyone to know me and him are together.. sounds really dumb, I know but I love him and I want to make it official..
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 November 2013):
 how does putting it on Facebook "make it official"
does that mean that because my husband does not have a facebook account that my marriage is not official? because all it says for me is "married" I can't say married to someone who is not on facebook.
Now when I was 16/17 and I was dating a boy we made it offical by "going steady" and a girl going steady either wore her boyfriend's class ring on her wedding ring finger (with something like tape or string to make it fit) or his ID bracelet. My MOTHER wore my father's frat pin when they were OFFICIAL....
Facebook is NOT what makes it official.
what makes it offical is how he treats you, what he says to you, do you know his family, his friends, do THEY know you are his GF.. if so then it's official.
The problem is you want to "make it official" on facebook because deep down inside you DO NOT TRUST HIM NOT TO CHEAT AGAIN... and you think by claiming him on facebook this will make that problem all go away. It won't.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 November 2013):
When you update your relationship on Facebook and make it official do they give you a certificate? One you could hang on the wall to really make it official.
Worry about how your boyfriend treats you, not his social media privacy preferences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2013): What is it with FB, if you feel like you need to put something on fb to make you feel secure then you shouldnt be with him.
To be honest sounds like his only go back with you because you had a boyfriend and his male ego knew he could get you back. Just from reading what u wrote about him he sound like a player. As he knows he can cheat on u and u will still take him back.
If he cheated again would you take him back??? (I would say Yes)
By him telling u he loves u does not mean he has changed, his actions should show you how he feels.
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