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anonymous
writes:Hello,I hear all the time it's normal for men to watch porn. My boyfriend won't stop watching it. He use to be very honest about it. So with him being honest I went to be honest on how it really effected me. It hurts me to know that I can not please him. Then he started to hide it. Shortly after I told him that I could not do this any more so he stopped. Well a couple of weeks later I find more. Instead of gettin angry I just ignored it till he came out with the truth. Yet it ended up bad for me, He wanted to forplay with it. I felt so sick to my stomach. I know sometimes they use the thing of "When you don't want it" Well that doesn't really work in the relationship I am in. We both agree that I'm like a man in that department I always want it, and I do a lot of things for him. I left the book wide open to try new things. I want help. I want to stay with him but I don't know how if he keeps this up. Is there anything I can do to save my relationship from this addiction?
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reader, yankit +, writes (23 April 2010):
porn is a "guy thing" no women that i know of has ever thought porn was a good thing. Some even think it's like adultery. I'm from the older generation and see it as a diversion from the relationship that can amplify the in bed experiences BUT, he is ignoring your pleas to look away so I'd feel the same way if I was in your position. The underlying question of is it "normal" is not answerable since it's to each his/her own. Now it's up to you as to how far you want to vent your outrage about his disrespect. You might want to leave if he won't 'obey' your requests. You're the "normal one" in this society.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Well, at least consider your interest in sexual activity to be normal. However, his obsession with pornography is abnormal, at least when a woman is available. Just my opinion, and admittedly from the older generation. So . . . although you want the man, he prefers to whack-off. What more do you need to know about such a man?
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reader, DwayneC +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Okay...don't do it in an invasive way but ask him way what does the porn have that you don't have...yes it sounds kind of bad but getting to know why he goes back to it helps you to breaking him from it. Get him to watch the porn less and less to the point that he doesn't anymore. Try to spend that time he could be watching porn and have him watching you. Play with yourself in front of him...as you said you have an open book kind of sexuality just try new things in the pursuit of bringing him watching porn to a bare minimum. You know what he likes and what he doesn't. But make sure he knows how you are feeling about the situation so that it will get better.
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