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writes:im 18/f im about to have sex with my best friend whom i have very strong feelings for. The thing is, im a virgin and hes not...and the last girls he's slept with have been extremely thin with models bodies. i weigh around 57kg and im not very tall so i feel so 'heavy' compared to them. My best friend says he has really deep feelings for me and says that he can feel something real between us and thinks im insanely beautiful. But i feel bad still, even knowing he thinks im beautiful. I hide my flaws very very well! so i feel very nervous about him seeing me naked now, considering he has the body of a sex god and i have a rather large stomach even though the rest of me is petite. im really terrified of him seeing all of me...especially when i like him so much and im scared it will turn him off :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhahahaha trust me i know how frustrating it is!
him and his ex have been over for about 6 months or so..
i dunno i just feel like giving up on him right now,
i know for sure im not having sex with him unless im in a committed relationship. and im just going to keep my options open. thanks for all the advice though lovelies. x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 I'm sorry his need to be 100% sure that you are "nothing like his ex" smacks of manipulation or excuses. How long has he been broken up with the ex???
"he won't make me wait too long" ARRRGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH why is it totally up to HIM?????
I think that there is more here going on than originally stated....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe cant be together at the moment because he wants to be 100% sure that im nothing like his ex of 5 years that messed him up pretty badly. He needs time before he throws himself back into a relationship, and has told me that he wont make me wait too long and that soon he'll be ready again. Hes absolutely terrified that hes going to get hurt again, so i have to be there for him as much as i can to help him see that im not going to hurt him like his ex did :) He knows were meant to be together, so atm im just giving him the time he needs to get himself ready for a relationship again :)
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Hello, Just a follow up to what you added....Why can't you be together now? Why is it very soon? Any reasons please?
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (5 May 2011):
Hello,
Is he just a friend?? I do ask this because he may have ideas that you will both have sex for fun and then move on to another girl. Just be aware. He will be your first as well so just make sure you are not being used.
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reader, skoolof life +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Theres not a woman in the world that doesn't hate at least one bit of her body!
The thing is this guy thinks your insanely beautiful and he wants you. He has probably had doubts about his own body or even performance. Your a virgin thats a rare thing, so relax and enjoy making love - if your sure this is the guy you trust and want to give your virginity too
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for the advice :)
we arent dating...yet ;) haha
hes made it pretty clear that we are going to be together very soon, so i am holding off till then :)
im just preparing myself haha :)
he says he loves my body, and that when we have sex it will be meaningful to him aswell and that he wants to make it really special for me :)
thanks again everyone 3
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 May 2011):
It won't turn him off. Trust me. I have a terrible body right now. IF he cares about you then you are the most beautiful perfect woman in the world.RelaxEnjoy...if you feel that self conscious then do what I do, pick up a cute chemise to wear.... easy access and yet it covers up a multitude of flaws.... I almost always have a tank top or a chemise on when I'm intimate with my partner now.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Your body isn't going to turn him off. Your own thoughts and feelings about your body may turn him off. I think your insecurity in this area might be a sign that you are not really ready for this step.Are you "boyfriend/girlfriend"? Or are you just "friends" exploring the possibilities? I would hold off on getting naked with him just yet, until you are officially "dating."I'm concerned for you that this sounds very nebulous and he may have a different idea about what it means, and you will feel deeply rejected if he doesn't continue to date you after you two have sex.Could you please explain how this relationship has evolved?
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reader, Melltoo101  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 :) wish you could come here and see guys here don't care about thin bodies or what so ever. just go with the flow if he doesn't like you, you'll see that. or better yet wait for someone who will do that in the name of love not because of body type and staff. GOOD LUCK!
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