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I ratted out my friends for cheating. Did I do the wrong thing?

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Question - (28 March 2017) 7 Answers - (Newest, 5 April 2017)
A female Philippines age 22-25, *onfused... writes:

I'm in college and recently we had our finals exam for calculus, I studied my absolute hardest and I know I still get didn't enough right answers to pass, after the exam I find out that some of my classmates were using a facebook group chat to share answers during the exam. I got so pissed off because here are I am busting my ass of and losing sleep and still not getting it right while they just breeze off without consequence. so I reported them anonymously to my teacher, I don't know what he's going to do about it though. I feel guilty for snitching on my classmates but cheating is wrong, am I bad person now?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 April 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntYour not a bad person, but I wouldn't have got involved as they done nothing to harm you. The reason you got involved was because you worked hard and you where jealous that they didn't. You feel guilty now because you acted out off spite. But what they done was wrong and they should have to deal with that.

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A female reader, Caring Aunty A Australia +, writes (30 March 2017):

Caring Aunty A agony auntThose cheating classmates are laughing at all who study hard for their exams. It’s not a nice feeling to discover those giving answers to one another while we answer exams on our own merit.

What you did took courage yet you feel guilt about your convictions to rat them out.

But imagine you saying nothing and they go through live laughing at all of us who make the effort and they get the glory based on lies deceit bribery and belittling the honest guy. Sounds like how the business world operates today? Perhaps these people started their deceit in classroom exams and got away with it because someone stayed silent?

Having a voice for what is right is never easy as you will be ridiculed for interfering, told to mind your own business as we all are guilty of wrong doing at some stage in our life. However using this snitching as an example of right or wrong, I believe you did the right thing to nudge their guilty conscience.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 March 2017):

Honeypie agony auntI think you did the right thing, but for the wrong reason. You lashed out because you failed while they passed by cheating.

And I don't blame you.

Maybe the teacher needs to be less lack about what tech student are allowed to use for exams. And the people who cheated need to learn that it's not acceptable.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (28 March 2017):

You did the right thing. It's happening far too often, and what is the point of busting your ass; if everyone else cheats and makes the grade.

It makes me very angry about this attitude nowadays that reporting crimes and unethical behavior is "snitching!"

The crime was wrong, how is snitching worth the punishment?

If you didn't earn the grade, you don't deserve it. Cheating your way through college will require you to cheat your way through life. What you should have learned will be challenged when the times comes to put what you know to use.

Relax. They didn't care if you flunked the class, for trying to study and do the right thing. Did they?

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A female reader, This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal United States +, writes (28 March 2017):

This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal agony auntHow can they be using devices during a final exam? Lax school rules? No proctors? That's crazy.

Don't hang with cheaters--they'll bring you down to their sad low level.

The college must have rules about this. Did you follow them too, are you always doing the right thing too?

But yea I think you did the right thing -- they cheat everyone around them when they cheat.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2017):

You've done the right thing. They cheated. They should have to deal with the consequences of that.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2017):

Ethically, you did not do the wrong thing. But I personally do not want to say you did the right thing either.

You are not a bad person.

But remember in life people will do lots of bad things. Things you do not agree with. Things that are against your own beliefs. People are people. And you cannot go around policing everybody in life. It is not your job nor your responsibility.

In time, as you mature, you will realize this. And eventually you will accept people as they are, faults and all. I have faults. So do my friends. I have done bad things in my time. My friends know about it. They have never ratted me out or left my side. That is what friends do. If you value a friendship or relationships in general, you will choose to let certain things slide.

Life is not black and white.

I would not have told. Things have this way of working out as they should without interference. Some day they may regret cheating all on their own. Without your intervention. Perhaps their own conscience weighs on them for what they did. Perhaps not. Perhaps if they continue cheating, a teacher WILL eventually find out and they would be reprimanded. Without your interference. Cheating does not happen once. It is often a habit. But as I said, it is not your job or concern to worry about their actions. Worry about your own.

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