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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have now been having sex for about two months. Each time he cums but i never have an orgasm. Is there anyways to help this, as i enjoy it but i want to orgasm. does it help the guy if i orgasm?Also is cuming a guys orgasm as my partner never realy moans
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reader, joooooo +, writes (29 May 2008):
if you really cant orgasm for shit then fake it tbh
it will make him feel better
or
try putting your legs over his shoulders that will make you tighter
or tell him to massage your clit at the same time
try loadsa different positions till you find the best one
it will be fun finding the right one
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male
reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 To what the guys have said, I would only add that there's plenty of advice in this area here in Dear Cupid. Check the articles and you'll find some gems.
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reader, Aunt Letty +, writes (29 May 2008):
A shockingly high percentage of women don't actually orgasm through sexual intercourse alone. Some women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. You need to know your own body and what you're capable of achieving. A lot of foreplay before you have sex stimulates blood flow to your genitals and helps to make you sensitive to everything happening.
Most importantly though, don't worry about it, just relax and enjoy yourself with your partner.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Men are often more silent, even porn movies don't pretend men make a lot of noise.
If he cums, he has had an orgasm, men can't fake it. Not all orgasms are equally intense.
When a female orgasms one of the effects is that her vaginal muscles contracts, that certainly is noticeable.
A simple trick to help a female come from penetration is just to make sure she is almost ready before starting intercourse. You could also try to give yourself extra stimulation during.
But if you need to ask if a guy has an orgasm when he comes I think you need some very basic sex education first. If you don't even know this, what else is missing from your understanding of sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): I don't know about other guys, but it is important to me that my partner have an orgasm. It is not because of my pleasure, but because I want her to enjoy sex as much or more than I am. If she doesn't orgasm, then I consider it my fault and not hers. I believe that I didn't do enough to get her to orgasm.
A guy can ejaculate with having an orgasm, but it is extremely rare. I have never done it though. I just asked my wife and she remembers that a couple of her boyfriends were quiet during orgasm. It's been about 30 years, so she doesn't remember much. I also remember that one of my girlfriends made a lot of noise and movement when she had an orgasm. My wife and I both wake the neighbors. :))
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Some men dont make noises when they climax as do some women. I know myself when I reach climax I dont make a sound I just breath very deeply and then it becomes shallow. Generally thats my husbands cue that I am done and he can now climax when he likes.
He himself also doesn't make a noise. He just breaths heavily as well.
As for your own climax you may want to play around with yourself so you, like masterbating, can reach climax. Sometimes woman cant climax with sex they need other stimulation. Some women go through life never achieving an orgasm by penetration alone. Experiment with different positions to see if they help.
And dont forget to use protection!
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