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*ikkij
writes:I was with my bf for almost two years in a long distance relationship....I needed some time to myself to try and sort things out in my life and plan a future and go off to uni...anyhow when i discussed it with my bo he was hurt, but understood..or atleast he said he understood.he still wanted to be a part of my life and remain best friends, but 2 weeks later he started sleeping with his co worker...and he began to completely ignore me.. when we finally talked again he said that he still loved and wanted to marry me, but it wasnt going to be anytime soon. he was planning on moving here to live with me, but decided to move in with his new gf instead...he wants me to wait for him and not date other people which i think is selfish....I started dating another guy and when he found out he was jealous and hurt...it made me feel guilty but I am still with the other guy.I really do love my ex...and we have been through so much together. I always saw him as the man I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. Should I move on for good...or still hold onto the idea that maybe one day (but not soon) it will work out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): Well first of all, for him to expect you to not date anyone else, when he is, is just absolutely hilariously ridiculous. He should be ashamed of himself for doing that--making you feel like the slut. Honey, he's the slut.
Expect equality in a relationship or you will get walked over.
That's all I can say.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 you need to move on for your own benefit. he has no right to expect you to wait while he's playing house with some other girl. that would be like saying "honey, you don't mind if we postpone our wedding for a couple of months so I can sleep with your brides maids, i'd love to merry you after I'm done with them." That would be really unrealistic.
You're lucky that he's shown his true selfish self before moving in with you. That's better to find out earlier than later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Are you kidding me?
He's got a new fuck-buddy inside of two weeks, and yet he's making you feel guilty for dating now?
Move on.
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