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writes:OK this question is a little embarressing...I'm only 16 and i defeinitely want to wait to have sex till i'm married but i want to try masturbating..is that bad? Do girls my age do that? Is that normal? Also what about vibrators?..i dont know much about them..am i to young to use one? wow this is embaressing but please help...i can't talk to my parents about this..
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reader, daletom +, writes (22 August 2008):
I think you have plenty of helpful answers. Keep in mind that masturbation may be discouraged, or even prohibited, by your religion, culture or family values. Resolving this difference between your actions and the beliefs of those around you may be at the heart of your question.
Or perhaps not. Even where masturbation is tacitly accepted, it is still a very personal, private matter.
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reader, ViaSat  +, writes (21 August 2008):
this is normal , I am a boy and i still like to feel the vibrator.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (21 August 2008):
 To answer your questions.
"...is tat bad"
No, it isn't bad. It's actually a good way to relieve your urges without seeking sexual encounters. It's a completely natural thing to do.
"Do girls my age do that?"
Yes, they do. A lot of woman of a lot of ages (usually starting from early teens) masturbate in a daily basis. The thing is that most women will not admit to it, so that's probably why you don't hear so much about it.
"Is that normal?"
Yes, very very normal. Please don't feel ashamed when you do this. It's such a natural thing to do and you're seeking one of the healthiest methods to relieve your sexual craves.
"Am I too young to use one?"
No, you're not, but you might need someone who's 18 years or older to buy one. I only know two ways to get a vibrator from: a sex store (which are often found in the outer parts of the city), an online store where they sell sex stuff. For both places, you will need an adult to buy it for you.
I understand perfectly why you can't talk about this to your parents. My own parents are VERY old school (I can't blame them, they're over 50 now) and even though I'm almost 20, they can't accept that I'm a grown woman with needs.
So what you have to do is ask a friend (or an aunt or cousin you trust won't tell your parents) that is of legal age to buy you your first vibrator.
Oh, also, so you can choose wisely, here are some articles you can read to help you:
http://www.holisticwisdom.com/article_sex_vibrators.htm
http://sexuality.about.com/od/sextoybuyingquicktips/a/best_vibrator.htm
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reader, jadeybaby  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 hun im 16 and ive been masturbating for years
its not a bad thing its good, its like learning about ur body and what turns u on and stuff
prepares u for sex
i have a vibrator, they can help stimulate u to have an orgasm, there really good in my opinion
girls our age definetly do it, i know me and my friends discuss different techniques we do and stuff like that
theres really no need to be embarassed hunny
well, take care, if u wanna contact me send me a message
i'll answer any questions u have :)
xxx
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Of course it isn't bad! Masturbation is completely normal, there's nothing bad or un-natural about it. Because you are saving yourself for marriage, you may well experience a lot of sexual tension later on, and masturbation is a great way to relieve that.
I'd be willing to bet that most girls your age do it - I know I did. You just don't hear about it because it's not a regular conversation topic. But rest assured that /everyone/ does it.
I myself have never used a vibrator, but it's really up to you whether you want to use one or not. Perhaps start off just using your hand, see how you feel, and go from there. There's no age limit on vibrators - but most of the places that sell them do have an 18+ age restriction.
Good luck. =)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 August 2008):
 It is well known that professionals regard masturbation, at your age and even younger, as perfectly normal for both genders, regardless of sexual inclination. In fact it has been studied extensively and is considered a preferred activity for teens to learn about their sexuality and their bodies. In short, it helps teach an individual "what turns them on," as well as the mechanics of their sexual systems. This is particularly a more accepted and favorable way for young women (girls) to exercise their growing and increasing desires rather than enduring the possible physical and emotional damage inherent by submitting to sexual relations with males at a young age. In other words, good for you, and you are perfectly normal as well as wise. Your parents would probably agree, though that may surprise you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): Masturbation is completely normal and even considered healthy as it allows you to explore your own body, discovering what you find pleasurable and not so pleasurable. Although girls tend not to talk about it, plenty do it at your age and a lot younger.
Vibrators are an alternative to using your fingers. They're not overly expensive but require cleaning after every use. (Plus, you need to make sure it can be kept where no one will find it! Eeek!) But, they're said to be a beneficial investment!
Don't be embarassed by asking this question. Just find what's right for you and take it slowly.
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