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anonymous
writes:I had sex with another man, how do i know if it meant something? He's married with 2 children, i've got a boy friend and 2 kids. But the feelings i have seem more then just sex and he was really loving.Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Yes, it meant something.It means that you committed adultery with this man - he is married - and although you are not married to your boyfriend, you betrayed his trust and any (if any) commitment you might happen to have to your relationship with him.)I wonder if your bf is the father of your children. If not, how come you have messed up your life to the extent of having two children - unless you are divorced, and they are yours from a previous marriage.In any case, you are out of order because he "belongs" to his wife. Finally, whether it was more than sex or not, whether he was loving or not, cuts no ice. Fact is his morals are lacking to have had sex with you or anyone else!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (25 August 2008):
 As honey girl says all that it means is that you cheated on the people you love. My advice would be not to act upon what you did and go doing it again, treat this a a pure one off incedent. To many people will get hurt and lives jeopodised were you to carry on seeing this other man. remember that the the grass is always greener on the other side, invarible until we get there, figure out what a gargantuan mistake we made and want our old life back. Save yourself the agro and don't see this guy again.
All the best x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 August 2008):
Just because it was wonderful once, doesn't mean it will be like that if it happens again.
If you were both bored with your relationships and could really let yourself go because it was a naughty, one off thing that would be secret and never spoken of again then of course it would be romantic and loving and special.
If it meant something and was going to happen regularly then it wouldn't have been as good because you both wouldn't have let go as much.
Don't cheapen it by letting it happen again.
Learn from it what you are missing at home and then go home and fix your relationship so you are never tempted away again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): You better think of, what your boyfriend and your children mean to you and if they deserve a girlfriend/mother which is unfair and deceitful. What is the reason you need sex with an oder married (!) man? Is your boyfriend not good enough for you? If you realy love him, you would never betray him! And if you have respect for children and their need of a father you would not gamble with your relationship and the relationship of a married man and his wife!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Sweetie, yes it did mean something, it meant that you cheated on you bf and the other man cheated on his wife! Honeygirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Well I might not know that guy but why did he even have sex with you? I mean hes already married with kids right? Hes probably a lovely guy but i don't think it meant anything. If he wants to cheat on his wife, you shouldn't be a part of it. What about your boyfriend? You shouldn't cheat on him either if you really want a healthy relationship. If hes not right for you than just leave him and find a guy that you are both attracted to each other and connect. If its a situation where lets say your boyfriend is the father of your children, well you could take care of your kids without being in a relationship but more of being in a friends. Well hope I helped =)
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