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writes:i was in an emotionlly abusive relationship for 11months and finally got out of it about a month ago. i am now dating someone new im really crazy about but my ex keeps trying to come back to me and he wont listen when i tell him to go away.i told my new bf what my ex is doing and hes been trying to give me advice on it but im afraid my new bf will get annoyed with me STILL needing to get my ex to leave me alone.how do i know my bf wont get annoyed and how do i get my ex to finally go away for good and let me be me?
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reader, new_at_this +, writes (22 July 2009):
new_at_this is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni also almost had to go to the hospital/doctor because our relationship was putting so much stress on me that i became sick for 2 months straight.
when he found out that he was the main reason i was sick he cussed me out.
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reader, new_at_this +, writes (22 July 2009):
new_at_this is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit was only emotionally abuse with my ex.
he would convince me everything was my fault,
he got me used to being called a "bitch" and a "dumb jew".
he made me feel guilty for not sleeping with him and he blamed me for him smoking pot again even though i didnt learn about it untill after i left him.
i know he may think i cheated because i didnt wait a long time before i started dating again but he shouldnt be too mad since he got another girl prego 2 days after we broke up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): If your ex still loves you he will get jealous of your bf. If you don't love him anymore, you can move on with your life, I don't think he will bother you anymore. What kind of abusive you didn't mention it, verbally, physically ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Honey, I was in your EXACT position not a year and a half ago. It's only been a month, right? Perhaps, later on, if you and your new boyfriend end up breaking it off, your ex will think you cheated on him. But I do agree, a guy who is a dick to his girlfriend: emotionally, physically, whatever, should not be allowed a dick at all. My ex made me pretty cynical about love and I'm still not out of that rut.
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reader, new_at_this +, writes (22 July 2009):
new_at_this is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice.
im just worried about school starting back up because my ex goes to my school and my bf does not so he cant help me get away from my ex.
ive been harrased before by a different guy at school before and chickened out when my friend told me to tell someone, i dont know if id be able to call the police on him if he doesnt go away.
besides, its only ever been emotion abuse, never physical.
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