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writes:well i met this guy a few months back. hes absolutly gorgeous! and i never in a million years thought he'd be interested in me, but he was! i met him through a friend who told me he was 21, but the thing i didnt know is that she told him i wss 18 (at the time i was just 16!!!), WHY is beyond me! so there was a few of us out one night in town, and he kissed me, from then we began to date, nothing serious, we just met up a few times a week and did something, cinema, bowling, a bar, a meal...! and in june for my birthday we went to a a bar for a glass of wine and a sandwich lol, and he said 'oo 19 now ey, not far from 21 now' and i said 'excuse me?' he said 'what?' i was like, 19? and it turned out that he thought i was 18! when i was turning 17, not 19! i know its bad that we never knew. but we thought we did! i explained i was only turning 17 and that she'd lied, but then he told me that he wa actually 25! not 21!!!! which was a HUGE shock! we said that the 8 year age gap was actually a big deal, and maybe we should stop dating? i then fell out with my friend over it! but me and the guy continued to meet, without the intamacy (kissing etc..) we never slept together. but were we right in breaking up over this? i DO like him a LOT, and he says he still feels the same for me, is the age gap really that bad? should we have split up or should be continue with our relationship? were not exactly harming anyone????
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reader, LozlCat +, writes (22 July 2009):
Age shouldn't matter, it's about whether the fact you think he is the one for you. You should follow your heart :). I know two people who were the exact same she was 16 and he was 21, they are now married with kids and to be honest the gap isn't even noticable because they were so right. You should continue your relationship and go for it, you never know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): I don't think you should've broken up over it at all! If you feel comfortable with each other and get on well then age isn't an issue, just a number. I dated a 26 year old when I was 18 and it was great, he was so much more mature than 18 year old guys :) I'm 23 now and just by chance most of the guys I get on well with and date are over 30. If you like the guy as much as you do, there's no point missing out on what could be a wonderful relationship just because of age. It's not too late!!
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