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writes:I need help please! 5 weeks into my relationhip i went out without my girlfriend and this girl approached me to say hi, i immediatley told her to fuck off but later on in the night when i was heavily intoxicated i said some things to her, for example "wheres your boyfriend", "no one will know" and things of this nature, that was it no touching or anything,i walked away from her once i relaised what i was doing. I continued drinking and stupidly went home and told my girlfeiend that this girl hit on me. The next day my girlfriend went off at this other girl on facebook and the girl told my girlfriend what i had said and i lied and denied it and continued with my story. 4 months have passed and i am riddled with guilt, should i tell my girlfriend knowing full well it will break the trust and could destroy the relationship knowing full well i wont do anything like that again because i have learnt through guilt. Should i just continue denieing it as telling her dosenrt solve anything besides hurt my girlfriend, what do i do please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Let it go. You did the wrong thing, lied and handled it badly, yes, but who hasn't made stupid mistakes?
Personally, I think telling your girlfriend at this point serves no purpose. Four months has passed. Sometimes it really is best to let sleeping dogs lie.
You sound like you are truly remorseful. Forgive yourself, be faithful to your girlfriend, always be completely honest with her from now on, and don't do something so stupid again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Personally, I wouldn't come clean now, it's too late. Your girlfriend has accepted it and moved on, and telling her would only hurt her all over again. You may be riddled with guilt, but that's the price you have to pay. You were stupid to lie in the first place, but you realise your mistake and wont do it again. You have to ask yourself what the better situation is.. you tell your girlfriend and risk ending your relationship and hurting her, or you forget about it and accept you did the wrong thing and must pay through your guilt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): hi.
this is my question. thanks for the answers, i would still like more opinions on the matter.
I know for a fact that if i tell my girlfriend it will destroy the realtionship weather it be straight away or in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Yes, come clean. Glad you have realised your mistake, some people never do.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Just tell her what happened. You didn't cheat and therefore did nothing wrong, you stopped yourself which shows you love and respect your girlfriend. I think it normal for people to flirt its when you cross the line that makes it wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): You didn't do anything wrong. Yeah you drunkenly hit on a girl but that was it. In this situation it's your word against this other girls word and cause you admitted it your girl should believe you over this stranger. Hope this helps
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (29 June 2010):
 HEY... you didn't do anything wrong, dude. You were drunk as hell and said some things to a girl, but you didn't DO anything. And when you were sober and thinking clearly, you told her to go away.
Yes, you shouldn't have lied to your gf about it, but I think it's kind of dust in the past, you know? You didn't cheat on her and you walked away once you realized what you were about to do. You should feel somewhat good about that, because there are a very large number of men out there who would just go through with it, drunk or not.
Last time I was drunk, my husband's Aunt asked me if there was popcorn in her boobs, and I checked.
~SY
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