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writes:I met a man of about aged 55ish fairly recently on holiday. He stood by a couple he met in the hotel also next to me and he said "I wish I was better looking and didnt look like I do" (I liked him) and realised that comment was for my benefit because I assumed he fancied me, as he was giving out little hints of it. He also got quite angry when I didnt respond - the reasons being I dont sleep with people I have jsut met!!! I have always held back - when I could although realise I have missed out on fun because of it!! So when is it when we met up just FOUR days later in a town he was visiting-all he did was talk about how he had been flirting with the women on the course all daywhich I found quite hurtful. Then when we e mailed-he said he just wanted to be a platonic friend. This is all within a week of returning.Why then was he saying he wished he had been better looking and why was he so upset when I didnt sleep with him - then wasnt interested just within a week of returning. I could understand it if I had slept with him and he had already sampled the goods but he hasnt!! He is NOT married I am confused.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 July 2008):
He wanted you to start talking to him and tell him he was good looking. He was probably using pity to get you to hang around him for a while and acting vulnerable would get you to lower your guard.
Luckily you saw through it and told him to sling his hook. So he tries plan B. Jealousy. Suddenly he's telling you he's highly attractive and women are all over him but he's going to give you the first bite at the cherry. Again you see through him and tell him to bugger off.
Now he's back home having failed to get 2 weeks of sex in the sun out of you. So no wonder he wants to "keep it platonic." What he means is "you won't sleep with me so I want rid of you, or just to keep you as a friend so I don't have to put in lots of effort."
He's an idiot, you did the right thing by holding back. If you had slept with him then he would be sending you exactly the same email now only you would be far more hurt by it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Thanks for that -sounds a good reply-yes I suppose he was hoping I would respond back and didnt now seer why he was saying about the other women he had flirted with to see how i responded.appreciate your commentsfemale
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (4 July 2008):
 This man was fishing for compliments and was hoping you would say something back to him on the lines of that there was nothing wrong with his looks. But you didn't, so he thought you weren't interested. (I'm not sure how the jumping into bed bit comes in at this point - I'm sure he wasn't expecting that). Then later when you bumped into him he was trying to say that other women found him attractive so why didn't you. He was trying to get a positive reaction from you but you didn't give one. You seem to have jumped the gun about the sleeping with him. I'm sure he was just looking for a platonic relationship that may develop with time, like most people do of our age.
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