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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes: I have a big problem. There is guy one who I will call CV i grew up with him, I've known him for most of my life. we were best friends and then we ended up dating for a long time. And we broke up. Next there is MM who I met and dated for a long time too when me and CV dated and before we were best friends. They became best friends through me. When me and MM broke up me and CV began to date and MM felt betrayed by CV and they began to argue and hated each other. But then me and CV broke up and they became friends again. Then me and MM started to date and me and CV became best friends again. so me and CV started hanging out again, and MM was cool with it. Until me and CV were in the car and i was on the phone and i said i'm going to call you back. and later that night he got mad at me saying "why do i have to get off the phone with you when he's around". And I told him,I feel like i would be disrespectful to him if he heard me on the phone saying Baby this baby that, and I don't want him getting mad and saying something to you (talking to MM) and going off. And he kept saying you're putting him first before me and you care about his feelings and not mine. And i said that's your friend too, you're being selfish cause you don't care about how he feels and you don't understand the fact that i'm looking at ya's friendship and his feelings too.So tell me am i wrong? Am i putting CV before MM? Am i the one being Selfish ? Please I need insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2012): Yes I think you are being selfish. You have dated both these guys on numerous occasions, you know both of them have feelings for you and neither of them like it when the other is dating/with you and they fall out. So why not let them be friends, and you go and date someone completely non connected to these two individuals, that way there'll be no more complications.
Honestly to me, it sounds like you want the attention from both these guys and expect them both to be happy with it.
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