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writes: Me and my boyfriend are 17.I go to a private college and he is in state education.We are absolutely crazy about each other, love one another deeply and can't see how we would break up, not in the near future at least!I've always had big ideas for my future and have always tried hard in school to an extent so that i'll get a secure job/exciting career.I know my interests and possible careers i'll go into such as Fashion or journalism.My boyfriend is bright and an amazing person in the sense that he's quick thinking, reliable, mature and aware and interested in the news and current affairs.But he also gets bored by education as he sees it as irrelevant to what he wants to do later on... although, he has no real clue as to what he wants to do later on!He has to go uni or he'll be sent to do military service in hbis country at 18 and he doesn't want that...I just want to help him so much. What can I suggest? What can he do?I'm also concerned because i don't want him to hold me back if we stay together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to both replies, they've helped a lot. I think i will suggest he goes to a careers advisor if he's really worried... but we will talk first i think.
And just so you know, we both alive here in the UK! We live down the road from eachother :).
Thanks a lot, but for anyone else - any other advice would be appreciated.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (20 April 2009):
Well you are in the UK and he is abroad so I think your main problem is not the fact he's not quite sure what he wants to do in life, it's the fact you are several hundred miles apart.
Many people don't know what they want to do till they are in uni, and they can still be successful.
I can understand that you are looking long term here, and if you were both post uni, and looking to get married then yes, I would be telling you to think carefully or accept he's going to be your house husband while you go out and make the money.
But you are still several years away from this actually being a problem, so just enjoy your time now and see what happens.
If you are both going to go through uni in a long distance relationship then that is going to be far harder to cope with than the fact he's still a bit immature when it comes to career planning.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (20 April 2009):
 well all i can suggest is that he go see a careers advisor about what he would like to do.i mean i'm still not sure what i want to do in my life i'm 20 and at the moment i currently work in a solicitors i don't mind because at least it gets me some money to put into savings and save for my future for whatever i decide i want to do.you are right though he can't end up relying on you and hold you back from your dreams and ambitions.maybe you guys should sit together have a serious talk and find out what he likes doing.i always felt like that about Education i got bored of it but now i regret not listening half the time.he needs some idea of what he is interested in and work on it from there.due to credit crunch now it'll be tough so he does needs good qualifications behind him.but definately talk with him about seeing a careers advisor that perhaps they can help put what he wants to do in perspective and focus then on what he wishes to do.Hope this helps hun.and best of luck in your future :)
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