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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are expecting our first child, i am now 7 months pregnant, i am 18 and he is 22, although we wasnt together long before we concieved we both knew it was love at first sight, we were made for eachother. I broke it off a few days ago as there are things that are putting stress on our relationship, he lost his job and is signed on for job seeker's allowance and hasnt found another secure job since, i live at home with my parents and he lives in a shared house so we also do not have an appropriate place to live with the baby. He had a roofing job for a week and they got rid of him as he fell off the roof and as soon as he got paid he spent the money on going back to his hometown to have a drink with his mates, he says it was because he misses his family, but i know that is not the case. He also spends money on weed instead of buying necceseties for the baby, my family have bought everything instead of him. He has also started to lie about little things that he doesnt even need to lie about, he does it sometimes to make hismelf look good or so he does not dissapoint or hurt other people. Doesn't he understand that telling the truth up striaght is better than lie after lie? I havent seen him for a few days now as i broke it off with him and said i do not want to seehim until he has a secure job and a deposit sorted for a house for us to live in, i have given him a month in order to do this, and have said within that period i do not want any contact with him what so ever. I am confused now as in what to do? should i wait and see if he proves himself by getting a job? I love him to bits but i am considering whether i am better off without him. Please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): I understand, I was in the same situation not long ago. I just had our baby a month and a half ago...he has done alot of the same things...lost his job and when he did manage to get work and money spent it in all the wrong ways.Now we are no longer together, he has to worry about going to jail for maybe about a yr. and so is planning on running, and no matter how much I asked and talked and begged him, he has never changed his ways, even though he has swore a ton of times that he would...we are no longer even together now and I am living with my mother...Girl, I dont think he is going to change any, and my vote is you and the baby would probably be better off without him...it maybe hard without him there to help and you may miss him sometimes...but things will get better you gotta think about you and the baby, and what you gotta do to take care of the little one now you cant be worried about rasing a second child in your boyfriend.
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