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anonymous
writes:This guy and I dated for 9 months. Well towards the 9th month he starts to act odd like he doesn’t want to talk to me so he chooses to ignore me. So I stopped contact with him because I didn’t want to waste my time. Then two months fly by, he texts me and harasses me and tells me That I should stop obsessing over him, which I found strange considering I never begged or even spoke about him. He then disappears and in June he calls me out of the blue and tells me that his Ex will always be first before me. I was like okay? I didn’t ask? And he goes you’re never going to be anything for me. I was like ok? Well I’m going to go now. So that same day he kept texting me how he wants to hang out and I say sure… Then that night my phone got wet and I couldn’t receive calls or text since it didn’t work. The next day he shows up at my house yelling at me telling me why I don’t answer my phone. I explain to him my phone doesn’t work and I showed to him. I remember leaving my phone on my desk and he then decided to leave. After he left I notice my phone is gone. I email him asking him to give me back my phone and of course he denies it. I have no idea why he would steal a broken phone…Then in July he shows up at my house and says he want to hang out and I’m ok and he starts to say how I should give him some posters he got me back to him. I say no, there mine.. He grabs one and I try to get it back and he rips it. I’m like what’s your problem he’s like there mine. I’m like you gave them to me. He then uses the bathroom and leaves. And I go and check the bathroom and he urinated all over. I call him and I tell him do you not know how to use your fucken dick and he says oh I didn’t know I did that I’m sorry. Then a month later he starts texting about some game we used play so we talk about it for a few days. Then he shows up my house which was yesterday and he starts saying how he doesn’t want a gf and how he wants to make sure I know so I won’t have feelings for him. I was like Ok thanks for informing me, sarcastically. Then for about 3 hours he’s just sitting there texting people and everytime I would ask a question he’d be like don’t trip.. SO I got annoyed so I told him if he could leave and I guess he didn’t like that and got hysterical he stole this other poster he gave and I tell him to give that back and He’s like it’s mine I’m fine take it I don’t care anymore I’m tired of trying to be your friend. He then leaves but realizes he left some of his stuff in my room and he bangs on my windows and I didn’t want to deal with it and he rips my front door screen then he goes to my other window and takes the screen off and I go and tell him what’s your problem and he’s like I left my charger and I gave it to him then I guess he realizes he also left his ipod so he comes back and again he bangs on my windows like crazy. I give him his ipod cause I was just exhausted and I go why are you acting like this? And he goes cause you gave me bad vibes when you kicked me out. And He leaves. Then I go to my room and I notice he stole some of my money. I was going to call him back, but then I thought Why? Why would I give that attention. I’m done with him. I’m utterly confused. How the hell does he expect me to treat him with respect if all he does is try to put me down. I’m strong person, but it gets annoying. He says he wants to be friends and I’m okay with that, but with his arrogant attitude just isn’t helping. I know I should keep total contact away from him. Which I do, I never ever try to talk to him first. Even when we dated I never tried to talk to him first. It was always him. I’ve gone months without talking to him and I’m fine. I remember he was saying how I have mental issues just because I took antidepressents years ago because I was depressed. I’m starting to think something is wrong with him.I need help, I know I don’t love him, but I still care for him. I just don’t think I should give him any respect anymore because he doesn’t give it to me. I tried being nice, but I think I’ve had enough. We have mutual friends, but I never talk about him to his friends. I don’t go around trying to destroy his reputation, but I’m starting to want to. I find it odd that a person keeps saying how I will never be his gf when I never tried or even seemed to want to be his gf. I just wanted to be friends cause we had good chemistry, but with all this drama he starts I’m starting to think it’s impossible to even be friends cause he’s not all there. Do you think something’s wrong with him mentally or is a total asshole who I keep letting in my life. I know some of this is partially my fault for letting him come into my life but everytime he pops up I don’t see him as a lover I see him as a friend. Should I talk this out with him? I know when people sometimes talk about it, it just makes things worse, but I know sometimes talking does work things out. Or should I just close the door forever on him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): I don't know why you keep trying to be friends with this guy. He is psycho! Stay away from him, don't answer his texts or calls, and if he comes back again and starts wrecking your house, tell him to leave or you will call the police.
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (28 August 2010):
Close the door forever on him and find someone better. He sounds like a nutcase. That's sad and you may feel sorry for him, but he also sounds dangerous. He stole your money girl!
I think you may log for the time when you were lovers and friends, but that time is history. Get a restraining order if you have to.
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