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writes:Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months. Before we even started dating his sister decided that she didn't like me because I am 10 years younger than him. I have still never met her or any other member of his family. He lives in the apartment in his sister's house and we only hang out when she's not home. I know this is kind of a stupid question but I love him and he says he loves me and I believe him and I really would like to be around him for the holidays but I just don't see it happening since I can't even be over when she's home, any opinions please, it's really been bothering me. :/ Thanks you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): Hold on, someone below me said you're getting played by your boyfriend of FOUR months because he hasn't introduced you to his family yet?
Especially at his age (ps I am early 20s, my bf is 10 years older) he's not going to rush to introduce every couple month fling to his parents.
No, at his age - he introduces the SERIOUS relationships to his family.
So, if he wants you to spend the holidays with him - it's a compliment. Who cares about his sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): "I have still never met her or any other member of his family."
This is absurd, particularly for someone who is that age. You are being played, almost certainly, or there is a serious family issue that you need to know about before you get any further involved.
Hey, I didn't take my wife home for a long time, but she knew why, and it wasn't some lame excuse.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I'm rather confused at why she doesn't like you but she's never met you. How do you know she doesn't like you, your boyfriend told you? Just a thought, but do you ever think your boyfriend is lying to you? Reason why I say that is I had a boyfriend who lived with his aunt, I only met her once and he said his aunt didn't like me and I wasn't allowed over there anymore. Come to find out, she actually did like me and wondered why he never brought me around...
Anyways, it's her house, her rules. If his sister is hosting the holidays at her house then you can't spend time with him. Now, if his parents are having holiday festivities in their home then I don't see why can't you go. I would ask him if you guys could spend the holidays together, why not invite him over to your place after he's finished spending time with his family? Personally, I think the holidays are a good time to meet your boyfriend/girlfriend...If he doesn't introduce you to his parents soon then I would be raising my eyebrow.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 You can't bring him to meet your family? After the holidays there would be fewer reasons to see him. His sister didn't like his ex-girlfriends because she caught them making out when she came home. So he made up this story which sounds like she is jealous of younger women. Even though he's around 30 he has to behave like a good boy following her rules in the house. The sooner one of you becomes financially independent, the stronger your hope. It's nice to walk in shopping malls together. There has to be something that opens on the 24th, 25th, and the 26th. Celebrate it your way, anyway you can.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 How odd, that he'd be willing to tell her about you but then not stick up for himself and your relationship. Hm. Maybe he's got a problem in that she'd throw him out of the apartment? Whatever the situation, I'd probably let him know that this isn't going to be a viable situation for you and that if he's not willing to incorporate you into his life fully, you're sorry but you'll have to move on. You've only been dating for 4 months, though, so it is a bit too early for that step. Give him a little longer to get used to dating you.
Of course, if there are other red flags in this relationship, maybe it's a good time to reconsider dating him right now.
Good lcuk.
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