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writes:I am a happily married 37 year old female and I am attraced to my best friend's fiance. I think he is attracted to me also. We always give a hug and a kiss when we see each other and I feel attracted to him. He always kisses me straight on the lips and last weekend he carressed by bum when he hugged me. I am in a big dilemma. I know this is wrong and i do not want to ruin my marriage or my friendship with this person as we have been best friends mosltly all our lives. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): The guy is a scum if he's groping you while he's engaged to your best friend. I hope you tell your friend what he's been doing & you step back. He is a jerk & you're encouraging this behavior. You're a really bad friend too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Take a step back. You are attracted to a creep is the reality. He is prepared to flirt (and some) behind your best mates back with you and he's enjoying it. Where do you think this is going exactly? Do you want to end up with him? Would you trust him if you did? You can see what sort of guy he is! Oh please. Next time he grabs your bum or kisses you straight on the lips think of your best mate and tell him he's going too far and it stops. What would happen if someone caught you in this 'clinch'. If I thought my fiance was doing that with my best mate I'd ditch the both of them.Have you told your husband what he's doing??? If you really think its wrong then you would do. My husband's mate sneaked a kiss on my lips once - totally out of the blue. I was stunned into silence as it was just out of my husbands eye shot before we were leaving a meal out. I was disgusted. He was friends with us both but I felt strongly enough to tell my husband what sort of friend he had and we didn't speak to him again. I felt very betrayed. I'm surprised you don't feel betrayal - after all this guy, as your potential best mates husband - has the potential to be a close friend with you and your husband. You need a reality check and fast.
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reader, honestheart  +, writes (13 September 2007):
You're both going to end up hurting those you love if you let this carry on. How would your best friend feel if she found out? You say you're happily married but if you're feeling like you want to stray then you need to take a deeper look at your marriage. Put all your time and effort into improving your marriage. Don't risk everything. This guy sounds like a dirtbag who just wants to use you for what he can get.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (13 September 2007):
Tell him to quit hitting on you and if he doesn't that you will tell his fiance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): You should stop AND not encourage him. You can stop this if you want to, but it sounds like you are enjoying it and it will ruin everything you say you care about if YOU don't put a stop to the physical contact. Just pull away a bit and he will get the message, but will you????
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