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writes:Well for the past months and weeks ive began to grow and develop and ive noticed myself as someone ugly in general. I think im ugly, and just the other day a boy called me it right in front of my face.im short.lacking alittle in the "upper" department.pimples here and there.my chin kinda goes in too far.my hairs ok, yet frizzy, redish brown.big feet.increases under my eyes.now wouldent you say thats ugly?i would.ive got to the point where i cry every night.i complain to my mom of how she made me come out this way. people telling me is not helping me at all. ive never had a boyfriend. and i guys like me, there either geeks or people im not interested in. i dont think anyones ugly. i always go by if you think that one persons attractive and the other not, that doesent mean there ugly, it just means there not your taste. And i wish todays society would realize that. Im only 13. In 7th Grade. and last year i thought i was pretty. this year.. i dont know. i hate my self. my mother told me looks arent every thing. but jut think.. its what the first thing the other person notices. and with my personality i can be sugary sweet to you, or a cold hearted person. looks are everything. and i dont think i'll ever be comfortable with myself. im insecure. and as i cry writing this, i just want it to be over. ive got to the point when i stayed in the whole summer day after day because i thought know one whould accept me. i have great friends, but i dont think they think im pretty. it just sucks to see all these gorgeous girls walk in school with there beautiful hair swifting side to side as there perfect bodies go down the hall there perect smile and every perfect feature you could ever have. i will envy them forever. i really just want to be accepted as some one beautiful. i get teased. and tormented just because of it. im literally crying buckets. i wish i had more to give. so much more. i just want to be pretty like those girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): I am a 15 yr. old boy and i think that every guy likes differt kinds of girls "tall" or "short" personily i like short and my friend likes tall the more import thing is your hobbies i see it all the times it is more what you do then what you look like but most imported thing is no matter what you look if looks is all that a guy sees in you he is not worth your time:)
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Oh god... I remember feeling like this when from I was 12 til I was about 15. You feel like the ugliest girl around, and it feels so unfair because everyone else looks pretty. But believe me, this will pass!
I'm short too, but a lot of guys like shorter girls because of they want to be taller than you and it makes them feel protective. I used to be really skinny and spotty with tangly hair and I was crap at make-up. I wore all these hideous boring clothes just so I wouldn't get pushed around.
But now I'm so much happier! I have a hairstyle which is easy to keep looking good, I got curvier, I can do make-up well, and I wear clothes which I like, I zapped my spots away. Then I moved schools and now I have a fair few guys who like me! Seriously, I do understand how horrible it is to feel ugly, but it won't last forever. Just think... one day those pretty girls are going to wake up with a spot on their nose or they'll have a bad hair-dying job done, and they'll panic like crazy. And one day, you'll wake up and realise you're beautiful, and you won't take it for granted like they do.
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reader, zina  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 look im 12 and in seventh grade. i know looks r very importante in school.......i know im ugly AND fat.....but just because u think ur ugly doesnt mean the guys think so....ur probably just pointing out ur flaws....start looking at ur good traits instead of ur bad ones.....and if the guys in ur grade think ur ugly and they base everything on looks then they r not worth it.......try some one older.....like me im ugly and fat and the guys that i think r hot im my grade think so too but now a NINETH GRADER likes me so try someone older u might find someone u really really like!
freind with the same probs..
zina
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reader, LovingThatMoment +, writes (25 October 2007):
 AWWW. dont worry.. im 13 and im in the 8th grade.
i dont think i have been through to many phases like this .. but of course i have atleast 4 times.
but hey.. looks dont have to be everything to you.. only if you want it to be... just this "2007" life is getting rapacious and people only like thereselves.
but not everyone.. just worry about the things that mean alot to you.. you dont have to be pretty and popular to have a good time.. if you have friends have a good time with them. They are your friends they are there for you.
talk to them about how you feel, just enjoy life the way you want to not the ways other people want you to.
its your life.. make it last. you only live once.
.. hope i helped you.
3 Anissa.
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (25 October 2007):
 heya im a boy and i go through phases all the time,
your body is growing and it will keep growing up until you are 21
not only your body but your face will change in character
some days you will like it and others you wont
and my mom said when she went to her school reunions wow there was a change , the pretty girls were overweight plastered in make up and looking a state
whilst on the otherhand the girls who were not seen as the prettiest at school were natural beauties
remember the story of the ugly duckling that turned into the swan ?
that is similar to life hun
dont worry :D
enjoy what is good about you not what is bad ,
dont cry about what is bad
laugh about it
take care
chris
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Hi lovely.
I won't lie to you, looks are very important, they are what create the first impression about what a person will be like. However, if you have nothing in your brain you certainly won't be very appealing!
I was ugly between the ages of 11 and 13. I used to get laughed at by boys when I fancied them. Then I realised I didn't like the way I did my hair, or my make-up or the way I dressed. So I changed it, and am now far more attractive.
First off, take a look at your clothes, do you like them? Do they make you feel comfortable and confident? You say your hair is frizzy, why not curl it or straighten it? As far as bad skin, make sure you use face wash, scrub, moisturiser and face masks. Take a make-up class. Learn what works for you.
When you are happy with the way you look others will be too, and then you can show them the great person you are inside!
Hope I helped
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reader, Troys-Sweetie +, writes (25 October 2007):
 i so agree with rcn. i was ugly in middle school and high school. i was teased every day. face full of pimple's. no friends. i sat alone at lunch every day and all the pretty popular girls would tease me and push me around. my childhood was torture. i even thought about killing myself it was so bad. i'll tell you what though. over the years i filled out into a smokin body. pimples went away as i matured and became a beautiful person. when i went to my school reunion, all those pretty popular girls were now fat with tons of kids. broken marriages, had made nothing of themselves. and they looked at me in shock. every guy in that room wanted to talk to me. and i didnt give them the time of day. :) that will happen to you. i now have a fantastic boyfriend who loves and adores me just for being me because you are what you make yourself. just forget about all them. get good grades and go to college. pick a great career and someday you will think back on this and say "i can't believe i let that bother me cause look at me now". take care sweetie.
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reader, jodie +, writes (25 October 2007):
 aw bbe' i'm 13 and i have got redish brown hair but many boys have said i'm pretty!!!!!! i think everygirl goes through a phase of thinkin they're ugly and if u dont feel gorge then u wont look it trust me it works!!!!!! if ur not happy with ur appearance change it! for example-
ur hair- die it (i'm always dienig mine a dakr brown)
ur feet- wear shoes that make them look smallera dn thinner
ur face- wear makeup like foundation covers all cracks and dry skin and off colours
in the upper departmnet- i wudnt worry they'll soon grow i'm lacking a bit to
short- i'm a short gal but people say they wud rather be shorter than tall so just accept the things u relli cant change!
not all boys look for a girls looks they sometimes consider personality to!
dont et upset about it u've got ur whole life ahead of ya in a few years u neva know people might be joping they look like you
gd luck and enjoy life
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reader, rcn +, writes (25 October 2007):
 Girl, you really don't want to be one of those girls. Lacking up top at your age is actually good for you. I know you must think I'm nuts, or so old I can't remember junior high. I tried to forget junior high, but I can't my kids have the same teachers I had.
I'm not going to butter you up, or give you any false information. This is 100% true. Many of these girls you want to look like by the time they were in their early 20's, talk about sagging in numerous places. You're still growing, but so are they. What happens when you have a perfect body, and it's not done growing?
Many of these girls were on their 2nd marriage and had a couple of children by the time they were 25.
The girl you're describing you are. By the time you'd be old enough to be one of the stories listed above. Girls with your body type are going to be the perfect 10.
You may see yourself as small up top now, but when it comes time to really matter, you'll be perfect up top.
No looks aren't everything. Ask my sons mother. She still tells people that in high school I was basically the guy your mother warns you about, but the girls would fall for. I had hair past the middle of my back. Wore leather, and drove a camero z28. I also played guitar in a local hard rock music group. His mom wasn't the best looking. I went with her and didn't take up an offer by one of the real good looking girls because his mom I could talk to. She has a wonderful personality. We could do anything and just have fun doing it. The good looking girl, she was the definition of dippy.
You time is coming. When it does it will greatly outlast having it right now.
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