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writes:Yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday, I was so excited to see him so I could give him gifts and stuff. I know his schedule for the day, he had work from 12:00- 6:00. So, I texted him at 10 in the morning, figuring that if he wasn't awake by then, he would be soon. Hours had passed and I figured that maybe he saw my message but forgot to reply, I figured I'd give him a few more hours because that's usually when he'll say, "Sorry, I saw your message, I forgot to reply." which doesn't happen often, but it does happen. About 13 hours had passed. At this point, he's out of work, and I knew he might've been doing some other things. I texted him again. Still no reply. Even now, it's almost been 24 hours and I'm worried sick! I dont think his phone broke, he has EXTRA heavy duty and waterproof casing on it. And his phone is his life. And it definately wouldn't be like him to not respond to a happy birthday. I mean, I figured he went drinking the night before and maybe something happened? I don't know. I'm not close to his family at all, so I can't ask.Please help! What do I do? I'm not comfortable going to his house and knocking. Only because his house is right next to his parents, and I don't like his parents, they would come out and lecture me. And it's embarrassing to ask about their son. Do I just keep texting him?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 This is not a good situation if he has given you the impression that he is your boyfriend, and yet he chose not to have you beside him for his birthday celebrations.
When a guy likes a girl he actively wants her to share special events like his birthday.
And it is completely wrong that you have been made to feel unwelcome as far as visiting his home.
When a guy really likes a girl he stands for his girlfriend, even in the face of parent opposition. In such a situation a guy would say to his parents, "treat her with respect, she is my choice, and I am asking you to respect my choice. She is my girlfriend and I will not tolerate you treating her with disrespect.
You need to stop texting him and show some dignity. From now on the ball is in his court. He needs to explain fully to you and convince you that there was a very good reason why he would ignore you on his birthday. Surely he would know you would want to wish him Happy Birthday.
Besides he should have made concrete plans the week before. As his girl friend I would expect him to treat you with more respect, and say to you "On my Birthday next week I want to see you on ...day and we can to go out for dinner with you and my parents to ......place and I will pick you at at ....... Wear something nice"
If his parents are the major stumbling block then at the very least he could have explained that his parents were doing X for him on his birthday. But to lessen the tension between you and them he was intending to take you to place Y with just you and him the day before or the day after.
It sounds like he made no definite plans to meet up with you at a particular time and place on his birthday. That is very unusual for a boyfriend. Sadly for you I think it is time you examined how committed to you he really is. His ACTIONS are not supportive towards you are all and that is not a good sign from someone who says he is your boyfriend.
No matter how cute a guy seems he is no gentleman if he treats the girl he calls his Girlfriend like this.
You definitely deserve far more RESPECT than this.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Hi
Why didn't you ring him instead of texting? He doesn.t sound over keen if he didnt have you join him or see him on his birthday.Now silence.
Maybe his family had made surprise plans for him ?
You dont say how long you've been dating or what the problem is with you and his folks but it doesn't sound good.Leave him to it and don't contact him he isnt worth your worry.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (27 October 2012):
 I don't get the feeling you seriously think there's something wrong with him, or you would have phoned him at the very least.
It doesn't sound like he's that keen on you if he didn't include you in his birthdays plans. And ignored your messages.
I don't think you should keep texting him. You should return the gifts you bought him to the shops and get your money back.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (27 October 2012):
 What kind of relationship could you have if you don't feel comfortable driving to his house, and that as a girlfriend you can't be in his birthday party? I think he got drunk and had a bad hangover. You are embarrassed to ask about him because you know that probably nothing bad happened to him. I am fine with giving my boyfriend the freedom of having friends, but not to the point where he forgets my existence. I believe I should be the priority in the relationship, and not the gap filler when he happens to have free time. He is the kind of boyfriend who deserves to have a girlfriend who forgets his birthday.
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reader, Lucious L  +, writes (27 October 2012):
HiYou haven't said anything about his friends, have you tried them or don't you get along with them or haven't you been introduced to his friends? If it's one of the last two then leave him and wait till he calls you, I know it's hard but on the other hand I don't want you to show up on his door step to your surprise. Are you guys in a serious relationship with your boyfriend? Because to me it does not seem like your boyfriend knows his priorities, a serious boyfriend would put his girl first because this of him 'forgeting' will soon trigger trust issues and such.Good luck*
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