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writes:Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant.She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together for 6 years. She stood by me through thick and thin. By this i mean i have never been exsacly stable. So much as I spent a year and a half in jail and have moved around alot. But through it all she always was their and always loved me... I dont realy know where it all went wrong, I moved back to my home town (where she lived) because she wanted me to be closer to her, i settled down, got a flat and a job, and i truly belived that things had never been better. I was doing good (a changed man) and i loved her so much.But then one day out of the blue she just ended it with no reason, and totaly cut me outa her life! The worst thing is she went straight to been with one of my old freinds (someone i used to comit crime with)I just dont get it for years she wanted me to be a better person and settle down and when i did she didnt want me. The problem is with out her it just doesnt seem worth it any more. She was my whole life, my reason to be a better person. Since she left i have lost my job and started moving around again. I havent commited any crime but i put that down to growing up!!I know that after 2 years i should have moved on, but she is the 1st thing i think of in the morning and the last thing i think about at night. I dont know how i can continue my life without her in it. Please someone HELP how can i get her back, coz i dont wanna live without her...... Any advise how can i move on????PLEASE SOMEONE HELP
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reader, aftamath96 +, writes (31 January 2008):
aftamath96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again everyone... maybe your all right, jst seeing her would hurt like hell. And your right KayKay i do have to learn how to except it. Coz it aint never gonna change, i have been thinking deeply since i posted my question, and ive come to decide that if i love her that much then i'd want whats best for her and not whats best for me. And she is happy and deep down thats all i want "her to be happy" with or without me. Thanks DoubleM for taking your time to give me your help and advise. KayKay, chelz, angelbbabe. THANKYOU ALL you have helped me see things in a diffrent light
Thanks again Gaz
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 January 2008):
You never completely move on till you fall in love again.Why do you wana go see her?So you can feel depressed and sad? The less you see her the better.You should be busy healing yourself.
Take care.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Do what you must, friend. But trust an old dude whose been in damn near every situation with women. Your best "closure" will be when you find another lady to love and all but forget the past. Sound sound like a good guy who will eventually find happiness.
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reader, aftamath96 +, writes (29 January 2008):
aftamath96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to say thanx to all who gave their advive on my posted question. There were a lot of diffrent opinions and i have taken them all on bord,, and decided that maybe now it is time to go and see her and just get the closer that i have needed for the last 2 year, and ehatever the outcome to stop beeting myself up and move on with my life.Thanks all Gaz
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reader, chlez83 +, writes (28 January 2008):
This is one thing women blame us on.We are so poor at reading in between the lines.She stopped loving you some time back and was merely offering friendhsip support.That's why she waited for you tobe stable before leaving you.Along the way she fell in love with your friend and thought she'd have a better relationship with him.I know as a man you'll definitely see it as an act of betrayal and so would I.Howvever,you have two options,either persue her again or forget about her and move on and i guess you are not ready to take the second option.So don't just sit there and mourn about it,go after her.Even if she rejects you,you'll know you tried winning her back.If she does,please move on and stop depressing yourself.If she can leave you,then she ain't woth your tears.I've never been with sum1 that long but find it hard to leave sum1 i've been with for almost a year so i can imagine how you are feeling.Be strong and look to the future.Forget your past,you can't change it.
Good Luck
Take care.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Right now you seem to be very, VERY unstable. No girl is going to be attracted to that. You need to set yourself up and plan your life as an independent person. Depend on nobody but yourself. If you start relying on others over yourself.. in the long run you will be the one who is unhappy. Stop trying to please everyone else. Do what makes you happy. Find a job that you enjoy and forget about this girl, because by now she has already forgoten about you. I know it may seem harsh, but there are so many other girls out there and you just need to accept the fact that she is is not the right one for you. I believe that everyone has someone out there for them and if you keep dwelling on the fact that she was your one and only.. she will end up being the only one. Find the strengh and the courage to completly move on. You need to do this in order to find that special person out there for you.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 January 2008):
The mystery question is, "Why do women do what they sometimes do?"
Read on to my next posting . . .
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 January 2008):
Well, let me one-up you a bit. You tell ME how my ex-wife of 20-years, for whom I provided for and helped raise and love her two children from her previous marriage - bought a home for the family and generously provided all by making a good living - explored a variety of sexual pleasures with her, could possibly and suddenly up and leave after all that.
Figure that out, and you will have solved one of the great mysteries of the ages.
Move on dude.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 You can keep on looking for her and in the meantime , go on living and enjoy your life.
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